Venting

My partner and I got into an argument and he mentioned how he’s not going to come home from work and clean, cook, be a “babysitter,” etc. I told him that all that is being called a dad is. Work is work and when he comes home, he’s a dad. Somehow that upset him, idk why. I’m not asking him to cook or clean every night that he comes from work. I know being a SAHM comes with all the house stuff and taking care of the kids but what’s so wrong with helping out a bit? And helping out with the kids? He said that there’s different roles and if I don’t understand that then he doesn’t know what else to say to me. I understand that’s he’s the provider but that shouldn’t stop him from helping around the house or with his own kids. He also mentioned how he’s has the right to take a break when he gets home and I’m not saying he can’t but when do I ever get a break? I can’t even get 30 mins to myself in an entire day and it’s just exhausting. I might be in the wrong, idk. Just needed yo vent.

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My husband got irritated today bc he kept getting handed the baby. He said ur always handing her to me. And I said yeah bc I have her all day, she hasn't seen you all day. He goes to work at like 5 a.m., so she doesn't see him from 8 pm until 5 pm the next day.

That’s shitty. Just because he’s the bread winner doesn’t mean he can’t help in HIS own home. If he was a single man without you guys, he would have to come home and clean, cook and do laundry for himself. So what’s the problem with you asking for a hand? From the person who is supposed to be on your team? Tell him since roles are so different then let’s switch. I go to work all day while you stay home and cook, clean and watch the kids. Without my help because I’m gonna be exhausted from work. Then watch him be surprised and be like hell no. Lmao. Men are so shitty..

I think this has to be the single most frustrating thing I see constantly on this app. Why don't these dads WANT to spend time with their kids?? Why have kids if you're just going to constantly avoid taking care of them?

You're a sahm whilst he's at work but once he's home the work is shared between you, you clock off when he gets home and then you do things together else when do you get off? I swear they think being a sahm is easy or something. Yesterday I was trying to clean the house but my toddler chose chaos that day so I only managed the lining room and hallway, my husband comes home said "wow the living room looks amazing, what would you like for tea I couldake the salmon thing you like" and that is how the provider should act when coming home, I was so stressed out I could of cried when he walked in. It's fucking hard work!

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