MIL is codependent/overbearing

MIL is over at our house basically every single day, tells her youngest son that if he leaves for college she'll kill herself, constantly crying about something to the point I'm no longer sympathetic. She constantly wants to hold, talk to, and touch my baby even when I make it clear verbally or physically clear I (and my baby) need space. I'm tired of it. Boyfriend/BD said that when the youngest brother moves out that his family should move in with us so his mom isn't depressed BIL is total drama and constantly in and out of jail. I don't want him around my daughter. I can't trust my MIL not to allow her crazy son around my daughter. My boyfriend/baby daddy doesn't even see my issues or establish boundaries. Help? Advice? There is a language barrier so I personally can't establish boundaries with MIL.

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So he has one brother who is in and out of jail and one who is supposed to leave for college?

@Bria yes. The youngest is going to college, I'm dating the oldest and he moved out and lives with me, and the middle child is the one who's constantly in and out of jail and doing drugs.

I want a sense of stability in my own life and I want my daughter to be surrounded by healthy people with healthy boundaries and healthy relationships and friendships. I'm afraid that if I stay with my partner that his mom will turn her codependency to my daughter. She has already joked with me several times about me having another kid so that she can adopt it..

I def don’t think you should have them living with you and especially around your daughter. If your BF can’t understand your concerns I’m afraid you’ll have to leave for the priority of your daughter xx it’s the absolute best you could do xx sorry to hear your predicament xx

@Kathryn thank you 🙏

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