When did your ebf baby begin to let you leave them?
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Velcro baby was 18 months before I could even walk out of the room without him crying. There was a period of time before that where I could get him busy and go do dishes around the corner, but if dad was home none of my tricks worked and he would act like I was about to abandon him. To leave the house after that mark I could sneak out and that mostly worked and would be fine until I got home but not saying bye sucks. My 7 month old was totally fine until about a month ago. Mostly its just if she sees me that she gets upset so I could probably sneak out now, but I won't try until she is confidently taking solids.
😳 my 9 month old is usually fine as long as I’ve fed her and she doesn’t see/hear/smell me then she loses it and I have to go get her. So I can usually sneak out to shower, run whatever errands but the minute I walk back in it’s like a phone connecting to the home WiFi and she knows I’m there.
My almost 7 month old is fine until it comes to bedtime
My 8mo is fine for a few hours and will even do bedtime without me. I think it depends on the temperament of the baby and how used to it they are
1/2 I’d look into attachment styles in babies and toddlers and try to practice ways to ensure a secure attachment. Knowing that info helped us let our son (almost 2 now) gain the confidence for us to leave without having to slip out. We can now tell him “I’ll be back in a bit/later bubba! Love you bye bye! Kisses and hugs!” And then we give kisses and hugs and he will let us leave. He cries for about 5 minutes (which is good) and then he can be redirected and he’s fine until we come back which can be a whole day and there’s no issue with it. Takes practice, consistency, definitely no slipping out the door cause that can cause anxiety and insecurity and make the problem worse eventually. You want to consistently say bye to them which builds trust as they know when you say bye you’ll be coming back. I like to say I’ll be back just for reassurance and when I do come back the first thing I say is “hi bubba! See momma came back!” It also reduces anxiety since it’s a predictable routine.
2/2 It’ll encourage emotional regulation and help them develop coping skills. You don’t want to linger during goodbyes, have your farewell routine, don’t stretch it out, and then leave, start small amount of time and you can gradually get longer as they get better with the shorter amounts of time. And then lastly it helps prevent potential future clinginess since slipping out without saying goodbye can create fear of abandonment without them noticing and that can make them become more anxious and resistant to separation making drop offs and whatnot more difficult later on. Just some tips we did that really helped us that we started early just to get ourselves into the habit and have a little routine going for when he did finally understand hey! We’re coming back!
I’ve been leaving my girl with my mam or her dad for a few hours since she was 6 weeks old. She just used to sleep while I was out and then as soon as she could sense me back she would scream until I fed her
After the long response I feel like I need to clarify something. When I said I would sneak out I mean I explained to him that I was going out when we woke up, I addressed it again before I started getting ready, but I would wait until he was securely playing with dad to walk out the door when he wasn't paying attention. He knew I was leaving and that I would be back to do something fun, I just didn't say anything while actually leaving because he would scream for hours when I did.
17 months and waiting. When I leave dad says he walks around calling and looking for me 😥
17m old and I haven’t left my daughter for more than an hour and only when she’s napping. She’s still breastfeeding and she’s kinda unpredictable of when she wants to other than morning & before naps/bed so I like to stay with her so she knows I’m always here. She won’t breastfeed forever so I’m just enjoying her littleness as much as I can
For context I am still breastfeeding my sone at 19 months and night weaned him around 16 months. I could leave home for a couple of hours to meet friends and stuff when he started eating solids a bit so maybe around 8 months. Saying that I had surgery when he was 6 months and he was fine.. he only had 120 mls by bottle in 12 hours but once my anesthesia wore off I gave hime milk and he was fine. At 11 month we did did our first concert and left him with a nanny for dinner and night time. Have done a few since. Around 16 months I night weaned him to have my first weekend away ..it was tough but my husband managed and my son doesn't seem any different after. I think if it's important for you to go out without him you will find a way. I didn't mind taking him along everywhere while I was on mat leave so I did that..it was a middle ground since I didn't want to sacrifice my social life. Try and find a consistent person could be family, friend or a nanny that he sees a couple of time a month at least.
10-18 months for sure. He would be so focused on playing with whoever was watching him I’d just slip out of the house. It gets easier when they nurse less, my son also LOVES water so that helped alot (he wouldn’t take a bottle). My first overnight away from him was 7.5 months and then again at 13 months. He was def crying for me when I walked into my moms though cuz he was over it lol. But when I called to check in she joked for me to leave them alone bc they were just fine!