Advice needed

Did they give you any context ? Like what she is doing ? Xx

@Kimberley they stated that she horrible to every child minus two girls and that she’s hitting the other children they said the only way they can describe her is mean girl xx

Any reason why? Hitting out of nowhere or if she wants something ? Xx

@Kimberley just randomly hitting them apparently and it’s really weird because we’re a none physical contact house hold I’ve never even taped her hand xx

Hitting is usually a way to express a feeling you don’t know how to control or name, so if she is getting frustrated, excited, wants attention, hitting is the physical response to that feeling, when she is having big emotions do you explain what she is feeling? Have you been able to ask her why she is hitting or explain why hitting hurts, gentle hands etc ❤️

I think them saying she's a mean girl is very unprofessional and unfair. To me it sounds like there's something else going on. Like Kimberley has said its usually expressing something they dont understand. Has anything changed at home or in the nursery environment, new baby, moving rooms or something like that.

@Kimberley I’ve never experienced her hitting anyone while we’ve been on play dates or anything she’s normally lovely to other kids so this has hit me like a brick wall and yeah I grew up in a house where we didn’t talk about feeling so I’ve made sure we talk about feelings and what they mean xx

@Rachael I’ve had a new baby and her dads got a new girl friend but when I’m asking when it started it seems to line up with the date my ex introduced her to his new girlfriend and her baby

Bless her it's sounds like lots of big changes all at once. It could also be that there's lots going on at nursery too so she struggles more in the louder environment to express/ control her emotions without you there with her. My oldest is 5, for him environments with lots going on always make his behaviours worse

It’s really unprofessional of a care setting to refer to your child as “the mean girl”

@Elizabeth sounds like your doing the right things and I agree with Rachael, is there a way to talk to the nursery teacher and ask what are they doing to help her! She clearly is having some big feelings so instead of labelling her maybe they intervene in a gentle way? Xx