Did your MIL tested you when you visited her for the first time(when bf/gf time)?
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I’m not judging but extremely curious. Did your sis know she was being tested? How do parents handle this fail? Does it affect your ability to actually get married (or is marriage 100% off the table if you fail) I have a lot of questions as I don’t have this as a cultural norm in my family/community
What culture/socioeconomic background are you from?
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No but I’m my husbands second wife. If I remember correctly they hadn’t even met her before she cheated on him and they divorced. It’s been 5 years now we’ve been married or will be this year and my FIL (love them all) but she came up and he was like I didn’t want to like you when I first met you but he said gotdammit she’s perfect for him 😂. I think all families will have some sort of “test” or are weary of new partners but I’d how it’s more character stuff. Are you rude to them, secretly flirting with other family stuff like that.
I know she observes me but has never said anything rude or mean to me at all. Like she'll buy me a cute top and say she noticed I fancied that color or that she noticed I prefer hoodies. She'll gift me chocolate and it'll be a favorite and she'll say that she remembered I liked that on some random ass day 🤣 When my daughter does this scrunchy thing with her face my MIL has laughed and said she's so cute and reminds her of me so much when she makes that face. So if I've been tested, I wasn't aware and I think she loves me.
@S. annalese I mean we know once we visit partner’s fam we’ll eventually get observed and tested since it’s our culture thing. So her bf mom asked my sis to cut an apple and watched how she was cutting and my sis isn’t good with knife skills so his mom was like omg I don’t want you to cut your fingers and took it from her. That was be a minus. They asked lot of background questions like what does your father do for a job, what kind of job etc. I’m Asian so parents want their child to marry to rich or mid class. She cried for a week while she was there because she didn’t feel welcomed(the vibe you know you can feel from them). When she talked they would cut her off. But my sis is his first gf and he’s so into her and he has strong personalities so I think he say something to his parents. My mom said he handled his parents well they decided to have a meet up with our parents so I guess he roasted them well lol.
Right now They’re dating with the thought of marrying so it’s not that serious stage for parents to test too hard but she just had difficult time staying at his house. Not one day but for a week (we live in ny his parents lives in Texas) during thanksgiving week.
No. She didn’t test me. But she already liked the fact that I ate on the kitchen table like a normal person and not grab the bowl into the room (and then not return it 😂) The first time she called me out to eat I actually sat on the table, to eat and she made a comment that she didn’t like the ex being rude and asked him to take her bowl into the room. I’m Asian too 💁🏻♀️ I live w my MIL currently she’s great
Of course every family/cultures are different but anyone went through these things? My culture is strict about these things when first time you meet partner’s parents and that’s how they like you or not from first impression. My MIL doesn’t live in US so I didn’t go through these things but I’m pretty good with these lol anyways my sister recently went through this test and yea she failed haha When people fail in this, we say it that person was raised uneducated by their parents.