Me and partner keep arguing

Me and my partner we are both 19 expecting our second child we keep arguing lately over petty things. He calls me names such as c**nt and d***khead and he says he doesn’t mean it and he won’t do it again I say I deserve better and he goes “find someone better then” so I took my engagement ring of and gave it back to him and said I’m done. But I regretted it straight away and now we are together but he said I won’t get the ring back even tho I regretted it straight away and only took it off after his words. He has been calling me these sort of names for as long as a I can remember now and I know I ain’t no angel I’m not perfect but I do try to be better for him and give him my all but I don’t know how much more I can take. I did a bad thing I shouldn’t have took the ring of over an argument but even tho he shouts and calls me names I still put up with it and carry on as normal

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Why are you tolerating him swearing at you! He needs to direct his frustration somewhere else. It's not healthy to bring a child into an environment where you tolerate being spoken to like that. You're 19 you have your whole life ahead of you. If it was me, honestly i would take a break and leave him be whilst he grows up a little.

@Sonia exactly he’s blaming the way he was raised on swearing at me. But it’s not an excuse cuz he knows right from wrong. And I don’t want our children thinking it’s okay. He’s all I’ve ever known I love him all my family said to leave him but it’s so hard when it’s my baby’s dad. Because if we are together at least I’m with him when he’s around my kids so I know what is going on and I don’t want to be away from them so it feels easier in a way it’s really hard. But he makes it out like it’s all my fault like I roll my eyes and interrupt him sometimes and get overwhelmed when he’s arguing with me but it’s jus a response to how he talks to me but it always is somehow my fault :/

He clearly has no respect for you! Do not accept anyone talking to you that way. My husband shouted at me once and told me that's what happened in his household and I told him if he ever did it again we'd be over! He never did it again! EVER! Do you want your children hearing you spoken to like that thinking that's an acceptable way to be treated? Do you want your sons to treat other women that way or your daughters to accept that type of behavior! Be strong! Don't accept that!

@Natalie yeh I don’t want that at all. I don’t feel like I’m strong enough to leave it feels weird without him or even not speaking to him for a day. I don’t like how he treats me but he makes it seem like I’m in the wrong too

Youve probably already done this but can you sit down and have a serious conversaton. Tell him youre very serious and if this behaviour carries on you will leave? You will not put up with it in your family? If it doesn't work? It must be really hard, you are strong! You mentioned family above. Can you talk to them more about it, ask for help about seriously leaving him. You will move on and find something better if you let yourself. Of corse it will be hard, but you have to do what's right for you and your children. Not saying it will but what if the shouting and names escalates to something worse? Only you know what's right and your situation but there is a better future if you want it. It might not be the easy route...

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