Does your partner want to come home after work? Or does he ask you if he can do something else constantly?

I need to have a serious conversation with him, it makes me feel so unwanted. Like I should have know he was going to be like this since he didn’t have a father. Someone to show him how to be one. I should have known better than to do this to my kids and my self. We deserve better. Someone who wants to be here. I’m constantly begging. I hate it… he constantly asking to be some place else.

Idk personally I want my husband to have a life outside of family and work and he wants the same for me. It’s unhealthy to just stay home all the time if you’re someone who has hobbies that need to be done outside the home (like basketball) and a social life that you want to participate in. My husband is in a band and has practices with them sometimes twice a week until late. He’s also a runner and rock climber and does that after work some days. He also goes out with friends sometimes on weekdays. I do the same. We’re having twins soon so things will change but I hope we both can maintain some of what we love outside of our relationship and family. Maybe you can have some days where you go out or he can include you in his social life?

@Chloe my husband works from 8-7pm. Mom-Sunday. Some times he get work off occasionally. He gets Monday and Wednesday to play basketball ball and go to the gym. He gets about an hour with my daughter and that’s it. I don’t think that’s acceptable. I have a 2 year old and a 4 month old.

My man comes straight home after work he calls me on his first break and stays on the phone with me the rest of his day at work everyday he wears an ear piece so it's connected to his phone so we can communicate the whole time while he's working. He works second shift for he goes to work from 4pm to 230am in the morning Monday to Thursday. So not only can I talk to him through out the whole week while he has his ear piece in but I can also hear everyone who talks to him while he's working colleague wise so I know he's not off doing nothing he's not suppose to be doing also have a app that shows where he's at all the time so I know he gets to where he needs to be safely and he hasn't hit a tree or a deer or something on his way to work and his way home he stays on the phone with me the whole way home as well even after he gets off work so I know he's not falling asleep at the wheel.

My hubby has hobbies and see friends during the week. But then whatever we do, our late nights are spent on the couch cuddling and watching our shows. I think it’s healthy for both mum and dad to have hobbies and friends outside the marriage but if you’re feeling neglected it’s getting a bit too much then. Do you guys spend time together or do anything on weekends? There needs to be a balance, and we shouldn’t have to feel like we’re begging for his quality time like if it gets to that point then yeah it’s a bit much. It’s already Wednesday for me, maybe plan something on the weekends were you can spend time w him? We have a monthly date night and we have a double date booked for 2w time, and go markets together on Sundays as a family. Like in between his and my social life, we have plenty of time together and it works here. If you’re craving for his time tell him, and maybe yes he can see his friends but then organise something in next couple days where he can spend w you.

I don’t have that problem as much.. I mean he does the occasional staying after work to smoke with his friends but that’s like very rare, or sometimes he has to drop one of his coworkers off but other than that he comes home… it’s not as good as it sounds though lol his first priority when he gets home is the game and of course I have to sleep alone at night😂 he doesn’t have to worry about our daughter too much because his schedule is 2-10pm so she’s down for bed by the time he gets home! Soooo yea lol I’m practically a single mom 😂

He works from home. I go to the gym for 3-4 hours after getting off work

I have the opposite problem I can't get mine to leave the house except for work

My husband works about a mile away from our apartment. He comes home every day for his lunch hour to eat with our toddler and walk the dog. At the end of his shift, if he’s ever home slightly later than usual I know I can expect flowers or a treat because he cannot WAIT to come home to us🥰

My hubby always comes home, and if he does want to go out he will ask but comes home to see us, say hello to our son and then goes, or even waits until after our sons Bedtime so he doesn't miss out.

My husband gets up at 5am to go to the gym in the morning before work so that we have evenings together. We encourage each other to go out with friends and what not, but that’s only occasionally- family time is priority

I get texts from my man all day about how much he just wants to be home with me instead. He calls me and says it too. He groans about having to leave for work because he can’t with me. He jokes about taking me with him to work every night before bed. My man loves me and I love that I know that without a shadow of a doubt. I do however wish he was better at making male friends, outside of us. His only buddy lives in another state. I think it would be healthy if he wanted to do something without me, even if the thought just made my heart ache. We… we may have some attachment issues lol. It’ll be five years together in August.

My partner gets back home every single moment he can.

My man will be gone for daysss one time he spent an entire 3 weeks except one night each week just to have sex and play with baby for like 30 minutes. He's living between here when he wants stuff and play dad then goes to others or his grandparents. I kicked all his "friends" out of his life because they're low lives but now it's between here and his grandparents only. Still though honestly I'm to the point I prefer him gone and just find myself wanting to be away more and more.

I'm not dealing with this. My fiance works 60 hours a week. And the first thing he wants to do is go home and be with his family. I understand the gym once a week. but he needs to prioritize his family first over his friends.

my husband also used to hang out with his friends after work for an hour or so and even on weekends. but after our son was born he’d come home to spend time with us. and text me all day that he just wanna be with us. now our son is way too much obsessed with him so he has no choice 😂 when we don’t get to spend time together like ion weekend or if it’s a busy week, i would tell him how i miss spending time with him without sounding too needy because men hate it. so he would understand and make it up for me

No. My husband is like so pumped to come home. That would make me sad. I’m so sorry. I hope you can find other ways to fill your cup too.

There has to be a balance, yes it's good to have hobbies and be able to do your own thing, but it's also important to have a family life and a relationship. When do you get time for your own time or hobbies? My husband goes running 3 times a week, but he always goes either first thing in the morning or evening when I'm doing daughter's bed time then we have the rest of the evening together

So he goes out twice a week and he wants to see his friends once? I don’t think that’s bad 🤷‍♀️

I’d be irritated because why am I doing all of the childcare for our children alone lol

My husband is always home as soon as he can be, owning his own business he works a lot so he takes every chance he can to spend time with our son. We value our hobbies and independent time too though, 3-5 times a week after our son is in bed he goes out snowmobiling with his friends and I go out most Saturday afternoon/nights with my friends. We don’t have many common hobbies in the winter, but in the summer we golf 4-6 times a week together.

Mine comes straight home unless a coworker asked him out a week in advance. He works 15 hours a day so I have the baby all the time. He has the baby in the weekend so that I can have a break and catch up on sleep. If he wants to go out, he takes the baby with him. He has hobbies and a lot of friends. He doesn’t ask for permission but we do give a heads up on our plans.

My husband works from 3pm to 12:30am. He goes to the gym after work.. which is when we are sleeping but then stays up watching tv. it only irks me when I wake up to a messy place because then I'm wondering wtf he was doing. I had told him I would like him up for 11am and he said that's difficult and how when you work days, your day is after your work. I'm like bro, you can expect to just not see your daughter before and after work. It used to irk me because I wasn't going out and doing my thing but I just started planning stuff so now he needs to be with the baby while I do stuff around noon.

Yes he does however he usually stops at the grocery store sometimes because it’s too much for me to go with 3 littles. On his off days he’s with us and he probably does something about once a year or 2 times at most with his friends

Oops I hit the wrong button. My husband never ask to go anywhere after work he always comes home.

My man would spend everyday and night with me and the kids and be very happy if he never had to go anywhere else

So yes he comes home cause he works evenings.. 2pm-1130pm Mondays-Thursdays. Then he has to wake up at 630am with the babies cause I have to get up early too to get ready for work at 830am. So he doesn't have a choice. He can go out after work but he'll be exhausted if he doesn't sleep.

Mine comes home but sometimes will want to go out but that’s fine with me. When he use to work crazy hours I found it was hard for him to be home because he isn’t use to do “nothing” maybe that’s what he is struggling with?? Sorry momma

My wife works 50hours a week. She comes straight home. On the weekends she wants to be with us. If her friends invite her to something during the week day she will check in to see how I'm feeling so far and then we go from there. Even on the rare times she goes out after work she always brings me a snack and a beverage 🤣 and will do something extra special the next day because her going out means I did morning and nighttime routine solo 🤣 If she was already doing 2 things after-work for herself (gym is a form of self care and basketball is also self care and social time) then I'd voice that I want one day a week (at minimum)where she comes home and I go hang with MY friends solo or where I go do a hobby or do the gym.