HELP ME

Why is he against the transition?

@Camila it’s always something different, my son recently turned 1 and he keeps saying he’s to young, then it’s he doesn’t like to be alone and cries, then it’s he doesn’t like to hear him cry, says our son isn’t ready to be on his own, I’m sure he’s said others I just can’t think of them. The thing is too is that I’m the one that gets up with our son during the night my husband will sleep through it and omg he snores like a train so he’s even woken our son up a few times then I have to try to get him back to sleep

@Emily he just turned a year old and he’s still waking up at night, I’m having our 2nd baby in 2 weeks and having them both in here won’t work. They will be waking each other up plus we just simply don’t have the room for it

Ohh okay. Sounds like some kid of weird separation anxiety. As someone who still cosleeps with a 2yo I totally understand the need to transition. The longer it is put off the harder it will be. Does he have his own bed instead of a crib

@Camila idk maybe🤷‍♀️ and he’s in a crib but it’ll transition into a toddler bed

If it’s possible I’d try switching him out to a bed to show your husband he can actually sleep in a bed and then slowly transition the bed to another room. Set up a good baby monitor and everything. Also it’s okay to feel frantic, you’re probably also nesting pretty hard and that’s a tough stage on its own because you’re trying to make space for baby #2. I’d write out all the stuff you’re feeling and your frustrations on paper and when you can sit down and talk them over. Sometimes putting it down helps guys really see the bigger picture. I hope you can work something out for everyone’s peace of mind

Maybe your husband can go to a different room instead? Or you and baby go to a different room? I’d prioritise keeping your babies close to a parent vs two adults together.

@Mayyasa there’s like 2 replies from her saying he just turned 1😂😂

I personally had my son in my bed until he was about 1 1/2 to 2 and I regret it. It took ages to get him to sleep in his bed and still now with him turning 3 he still wakes up in the night to come in our bed but you have to be very strong willed to bring them back to their bed

Honestly you need to do what is best for you and your mental health! My daughter, who will be 2.5, still sleeps in her crib in our room and I am due to have baby #2 any day now. It’s all personal preference and what works best for you. If you’re the one that gets up in the middle of the night to take care of your babies, I would do what you want to do. If you’re wanting to try it out and keep all of you in the same room, transition your oldest to listening to a sound machine (if they don’t already). That could help with some of the background noise that happens between your husbands snoring and the new baby crying.