My partner of 4 years convinced me to have an abortion at 37. He was my boss and closed the company , also moved and rented his place out which meant I had to move out and he started dating someone else all within a week!!

Writing this through tears

I'm 41 now. Got married at 38, and just had my second Child. Of course you can physiologically still have a baby but you have to choose partner wisely. You dodged a bullet worth the last guy, and you and your unborn children deserve something better. My advice is to pray and don't ever feel desperate or settle for less than what you're worth.

I just had my second child at 40. Plenty of us are having children later in life. I am married but I know at least one friend who decided to have a planned child on her own because she didn't want to wait for the perfect relationship.

I am 42 and had my second. Plenty of moms in their mid 40s and even late, I also know a woman who had a natural and healthy baby at 53. I'm so sorry you have been through this. You need to find the right partner or have your family help you be a single mom, need a sperm donor

At this stage (and I was in a similar situation), it’s not worth relying on a partner to be a sperm donor, just get a sperm donor (costs ~$600). Then you will never have to share custody with an a$. If you meet someone great, but you’ll be secure in yourself, by yourself.

The thing is he was great, funny sweet handsome I keep wondering if I should have been more selfish and kept her and just made him pay. He has tech businesses works tens of millions but I’m. It that kind of woman. I loved him dearly and I trusted him and didn’t want to ruin his life. He still tells me he thinks I’m the love of his life and it’s so sad to her that. He comes and goes like the tide with contact but I never saw him since.

@Demelza but I don’t know if love the sperm donor. And did you watch that documentary on the sperm donor guy?

I guess the question is what’s more imperative having the right partner to parent a child and trying to find that and being that unit or having a child and being a different type of unit. There is no reason you can’t have both but you do need to put yourself out there if meeting that person is fundamental. There is no reason your age need be a problem and the fact you have been pregnant, in your late 30’s is a good sign in terms of how your reproductive system is aging. I had my first at 40, second at 43 both conceived with a couple of months. I’m part of a group of 6 girl friends who have all had their first babies in their 40’s ( 1 at 45 following years of endometriosis and only 1 through IVF) and probably have another 10 friends who’ve had 2nd 3rd children in their 40’s. It’s anecdotal I know but in my limited experience age has not been a problem when it’s come to fertility. I knew as many people trying and failing in their 20’s and 30’s.

I had my first at 39. Decided 5 years before that to join an online dating app for people at a similar life stage wanting the same things from life. I met my now husband on there and we got married 2 years ago. I wasn't meeting anyone in day to day life and I got lucky ❤️ maybe you could try that?

@Jenny what site was it

yes you can. If you can find someone you trust to agree to being the spern donor and you raise the child than do that. Or if it's someone you don't want to be in a relationship with but he would like to provide spern and coparent do that. Those are an option instead of getting a strangers.

It was plenty of fish I think!

Of course, there’s hope! I’m 47 and unexpectedly pregnant, and so far, everything seems to be going well. So, don’t lose hope!