Am I being unreasonable?

Myself and my husband booked a spa and stay last night as a little break from everything. MIL said she was happy to take care of our baby overnight, which is the first time we’ve both been away from baby overnight. We arrived at 6pm and rang her at 7.15 to see how she was getting on. After a brief chat she was eager to get off the call and said to enjoy the evening so we ended it there. 10pm comes around and we hadn’t heard from her so gave her a message and nothing. Lots of calls and messages from then on but still no reply. 2am and we’ve tried to call and nothing. Same at 4am. I’ve now had about 4 hours sleep and then finally at 8.30am she replies saying they’ve just woke up. Our baby currently wakes up at least 4 times a night at the moment so I know the nights are tough and it’s not like they would have just slept through. I just don’t understand the 13 hours of radio silence on our first night away? For context she’s been very intense since the baby has been born - couldn’t really care less about me when I was pregnant. When I say that others say the baby is starting to look like me, she says nooo all says he looks exactly like her son. We’re both quite surprised how intense she has been and likes to look after him alone, without us. I haven’t got angry re last night but I feel really disappointed that she’s not been more considerate. It doesn’t take much to send the odd message or quick call and I know she would have known we would have appreciated that, even if she was trying not to disturb. Ultimately our night away has not been a pleasant one because of it and I’m just as knackered :(
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I would be so upset tbh if on my first night away I wasn't getting a response I would have gone home ,tbh if she's can't even message you back I wouldn't trust her to look after my baby

No, not unreasonable at all, I’d be really upset at this! What has your husband said about it? Ultimately I think he needs to be the one to bring it up to her, otherwise I think you risk creating further friction between you and her. So sorry you didn’t get the rest you deserved, hopefully the next opportunity has a more positive outcome x

Yeah I'd be pissed. Especially on your first night away from baby you'd expect a least a couple of phone calls/texts/pictures just to reassure you all is okay so you can enjoy your night. Feel you with the MIL, mine also couldn't care less when I was pregnant then got very intense and almost possessive when she was born. My partner spoke to her about crossing boundaries and now both his parents are refusing to speak to us and haven't seen their granddaughter in 4.5 weeks...

I could have typed this x my MIL is shocking and she would have acted exactly the same

I don’t know if I’d be pissed off as she may not have thought of how often you wanted updates. Maybe communicating would have helped. Something like, give us a quick message when you go to bed or if any problems

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