No, not unreasonable at all, I’d be really upset at this! What has your husband said about it? Ultimately I think he needs to be the one to bring it up to her, otherwise I think you risk creating further friction between you and her. So sorry you didn’t get the rest you deserved, hopefully the next opportunity has a more positive outcome x
Yeah I'd be pissed. Especially on your first night away from baby you'd expect a least a couple of phone calls/texts/pictures just to reassure you all is okay so you can enjoy your night. Feel you with the MIL, mine also couldn't care less when I was pregnant then got very intense and almost possessive when she was born. My partner spoke to her about crossing boundaries and now both his parents are refusing to speak to us and haven't seen their granddaughter in 4.5 weeks...
I could have typed this x my MIL is shocking and she would have acted exactly the same
I don’t know if I’d be pissed off as she may not have thought of how often you wanted updates. Maybe communicating would have helped. Something like, give us a quick message when you go to bed or if any problems
I would be so upset tbh if on my first night away I wasn't getting a response I would have gone home ,tbh if she's can't even message you back I wouldn't trust her to look after my baby