My boyfriend is dumping me right now and I’m just so sick of this shit

Defo a red flag 🚩

Omg he’s too much 

Check in every hour? What is he, your dad? That’s a wild requirement. I can understand maybe asking you to check in every once in a while to make sure you’re okay/safe or whatnot but every hour is too much. Also, you shouldn’t be required to respond to everything. He can use his big boy words to change the topic or say something else to get the convo going again if he wants. How old is he? Because this is giving man child vibes….

At first I was like he just gets anxious and I get it. He never accuses me of anything but he just needs to know what I’m doing all the time. He swears he doesn’t though.

I have dealt with this before, it’s a huge red flag. Alot of times they want to be controlling and they are projecting their insecurities on you. More than likely he is probably doing something. He shouldn’t be that paranoid about you checking in every hour unless you have cheated on him or gave him a reason to not trust you.

Ew, not the condescending “sweetheart” comment 🙄 and then the wild ass scenario he makes up to try and guilt/manipulate you into just doing it is stupid. “What if he gets kidnapped?” Jesus….

The ima goner part 💀

@Sarah and we’ve never ever had any cheating issues or anything that would make each other feel uncomfortable. I feel like he’s manipulating me… because he never accuses me or says anything mean, but he makes me feel guilty and I just wonder how much of this is actually a danger. I just want him to tone it down just a little because everything else is great 😕

@Amanda yes exactly! It’s so frustrating

Talk about controlling

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It’s called emotional manipulation, trust me run far away before it gets too late. Usually when a man is this paranoid they are doing something. I know of a family member that her husband was doing the same thing and she found out he was cheating on her when she went through his phone.

I completely get where you’re coming from, but also the texts just don’t give me relationship vibes full stop from either of you, maybe it’s time you found someone who treats you right and who you actually want to respond too…

@Sarah I would agree but he’s been this way for a couple years. We were friends before we dated

Just the way you both respond and talk to each other… I don’t know we could just be from different places but even when he said “we’ll get it together” you laughed at it, you didn’t say anything like “yeah of course I want it to work we’ve got this” or anything and he probably said good night because you just laughed and didn’t reply… neither of you seem to be fighting for it you just seem to be plodding through it! I could be 100% wrong but it’s just the vibe the texts give me x

So first of all girlfriend, you gotta figure out how much you like him. There’s a couple things to factor in you know? Like I.E. how long have you been together? does he have trust issues or unhealed trauma regarding being done dirty? Does he text you whenever HE is out with his boys n whatnot? or does he stay at the pad all day not getting off your ass via text msgs cuhz he don’t work, spend time with family, or have responsibilities lol. & lastly, other than this dilemma, how strong is your connection like are u hella feeling eachother or just started and feeling it out like basically do you both like eachother the same amount or is this connection unbalanced in some way that might be why he’s trying to overcompensate with communicating excessively and disregard your boundaries … I KNOW that’s hella questions girly but I promise if you fill me in then I’ll shoot you some advice that you can actually try out with him and expect a positive outcome from. ♡ xoxo Best of Luck ✨💫💕🙏🏼

@Beth I think it’s an autocorrect situation here and his text is actually “WELL get it together!” (My phone also corrected it to “we’ll” when I typed it just now) Which I would also just laugh at and not respond because that’s hella rude and sassy for no reason lol

@Beth maybe it’s just humor. When he said we’ll get it together I assumed he was joking because he joking said if he has my location he’s okay with 90 minute check ins. So then that’s when I said I’ve just never check in that much with anyone. But maybe you also sense how I’m feeling a little put off by him too!

@Amanda ah yeah see I read it with the we’ll as if he wanted to sort it out!😅 I guess I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt 🙃 Incognito I deffo think you’ve got your own answer though and you’re looking to check your not crazy before making your final decision! Only you know best x

@Joy ♡ I really really like him. We’ve been friends for maybe under 3 years and we started dating or finding interest over the summer and then we kind of solidified it like end of summer/august. So he isn’t a stranger but we’ve only been together 6 months romantically. He’s a cook, so he does work but he has way more flexible time than I do. But he’s always liked me more than I liked him because he can be a little intense lol. I do think in the beginning there was a lot of adjusting I had to do, but I felt it was worth it. We want all the same things, he’s so patient and calm, and he’s just a good man and dad. Oh also he doesn’t have friends. He has 1 friend that he talks to often but if he’s going somewhere it’s with family, the kids, or me

Fuck checking in every 90 mins wtf 😭his not your parents like wtf that's controlling

@Beth thank you ❤️

@Lauren 😭

He sound like a bitch idc

omg have you ever thought of setting him up with a bestie or finding the right kind of guy to introduce him to? hear me out— I don’t think it’ll be an easy task buuuut the thing is I feel like the purpose of having your boyss (more than just the 1 BFF) is that they bring out the masculine side of guys & remind them for example that clinginess just isnt attractive. I mean let’s juss keep it really REAL for a second, SOMETIMES the chase IS half the fun lmao. like if there’s no one else they’re tryna be with but still aren’t accessible a thousand percent of the time. gives you time to miss him a lil you feel me 😂 anyhow men keep men acting like MEN. you should totally introduce him to someone who’s about that! & if that ends up being a fail… then my input would be.. probably something that’s already been mentioned to you lol. but it would be to compromise since you’re feeling him just keep it 100 like “listen i really am not the type to be all checking in every two

seconds.. im independent, I’ve always been like this and im not really tryna change that for nobody. like I really dont play about my boundaries to be honest.. but in the spirit of honesty i really like what we got & im not tryna lose that either. can we meet in the middle? I mean be foreal right now id be pretty hard to forget & I know you definitely would be staying on my mind so let’s just meet halfway fuck the bullshit lol” and if that don’t work then girl he ain’t even worth it cuhz he’s tryna be the one that gets it his way every time apparently lmaoo that shit he said about getting kidnapped had me muthafuccin dyyingggg bitcchhh lmfao girl these dudes be hella retarded sometimes huh! 😂 anyways look tell me everything that ends up happening girl lol wish you nothing but love 😘✌🏼❤️💫

babe listen did old boy mean to type WELL** or we’ll as in reassuring you that yall got this? Or was it like damn bitch well u need to get it together then! 😅😅 but either way I noticed you responded with the laughing “haha” thing again & ain’t that what he got mad at you for in the first place tho?? like just laughing but not actually responding with words? or am I mistaken? just wanted to make sure cuhz if it IS what he got mad at you for in the first place then I feel like you should let him know you barely caught that and you didnt realize you made that mistake twice and say you’ll try a little harder but he needs to keep in mind that u new at this too you feel me ?

Omg, he’s so disrespectful. Let him goo

I would be extremely annoyed by this 😒 not normal

He’s definitely a red flag. The only thing I agreed with is only reacting to a message is the end of a conversation to me. I wouldn’t be pissy about it but yea

Sounds controlling

Clearly it’s not going to work out. He’s got some weird expectations and you do not need to try to fit them. Just tell him you’re not able to meet these expectations so it’s best if you move on

He sounds like an ex of mine.. and omg it’s so suffocating and exhausting. My biggest regret was putting up with it for so long. Trust me you’ll feel so much better without him.