Advice or prayer points please. So I’ve ALWAYS struggled with the spirit of rejection and loneliness, and recently it has been so bad. I am completely alone just me and my children. I really don’t have family or friends to call on or

Talk to. Usually I keep my feelings to myself but lately I’ve been being vulnerable to the people I thought loved me. I know the Bible says it’s not good for man to be alone. That’s why I think I’m being demonically attacked. I yearn so bad for community, a spouse, sisterhood. I try to extend myself but people always disappear on me. For example, 2 friends of mine wanted to start a Bible study together and the next week BOTH just stopped texting me and mentioned nothing else of the Bible study or reached out to me knowing I’m feeling lonely. Including family But if anyone needs anything, or wants to vent, I’m the first person they call on for prayers. I’m always available no matter what I’m going through. I almost never get the same grace in return. This has caused me to kind of bitter and offended which I know the Lord doesn’t approve of but it HURTS! Lately, Everytime I try to open up to someone they don’t check on me or they just disappear. These are the same ppl I said alwayssss call me when they need prayer or a listening ear. Family & friends. This has been a constant thing since I was young & idk how to overcome this. I really want community especially being a single mom. I’m just so lonely and it hurts. I’m not saying I’m perfect, I love my space too but I always try to show up for the ones I love. Am I the problem? Has anyone overcome this? I just feel used and drained.

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When God's hand of favor and wisdom are over you, Satan's hand of rejection and inadequacy are over you. One is truth, one is a liar. The ppl that reject you are easily deceived. They cannot perceive your value. And sometimes Christ keeps us loners hidden until His appointed times, for a purpose. It helps to see yourself as an Esther. A daughter of the one true God, bride of the Christ. Look for the other people who are also quiet and humble. Look for the people who truly accept you. The faster you see the truth, the better. You'll go from one extreme to the next on the search for friends...feeling like you must show up to every single thing you're invited too...in order to nurture the relationships...just to discover that it doesn't end...its exhausting...and you'd rather be "alone" to catch your breath anyways. Busy lives tend to drown out God. So when you present authentic godliness to overly social people...they don't have room for Jesus.Maybe they want to.Maybe they intend to. But you can't be extreme...

And sold out for Jesus. He tells us to live quiet, humble lives, minding our own business and helping our neighbors...not fitting in with the entire county or city or mega church. I'm being blunt here, and possibly offensive to some social butterflies...but this post you wrote...could have written those exact words. But I decided I was done chasing ppl. Not interested in anyone who isn't authentic. Nor doesn't speak to Jesus on a regular basis. Those ppl don't get the VIP access into my life. It took me almost 3 years to figure out a FEW genuine people that I see maybe once a month. I do pray you get past this stage, I know how hard it is. Believe that you ARE valuable and there are some folks who are gonna see it.💛

Thank you so much for this @🌻Desy🌻 I will keep enjoying my solitude I have with Jesus and praying that the right community finds me!

You'll still have to open yourself up a bit to find the other ppl...who are like yourself...being quite & humble & wishing to be approached. Look for THOSE ppl in a room...not the ones everyone is drawn to...not the chatty Cathy or the ones that look like they're floating across the room so gracefully lol Look for the mousy the alone, the elderly...the ones who showed up because God told them to but they don't understand why.

I am here if you want to talk. I know how lonely it can be. I don’t know where you live but I’m always open to texting. I read a book about setting boundaries that helped me. Theres a point where you being there for others isn’t right for you or them.

Thank you ladies! @Julia what was the name of the book?

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