Would you be upset if your partner was checking messages on their work phone during a growth scan?

My husband wouldn’t even be at a growth scan in the first place, as long as it was just a routine one to check on baby.

Absolutely. My husband is at every appointment and excited for updates. Work can wait.

Not really some of those later on appts and growth scans you can hardly see anything and they are such fast appointments I didn’t even have him go haha

Any opportunity you get to see your unborn child I feel should be taken with upmost attention. My partner has been to every scan, including the three extra grown scans. You can tell how excited he gets and how interested he is and this makes me happy. I would not expect it any other way.

I think it depends on the person. The only scans my partner came to were private ones we booked at a time we could both go together (one for gender and one in 4D) and our 20 week hospital one. The other hospital ones I went myself because he was at work and that didn’t bother me.

I think she’s more upset at the fact he was there, had the opportunity to be present for the short amount of time the scan is for, but chose not to be. Realistically, it clearly wasn’t dire he was on his phone at that exact moment and could have easily have waited until after.

Okay and I get that but she’s asked a question and I personally don’t think it’s that deep. Opinions vary that’s kinda the whole point.

@Laura but you didn’t answer her question… you just said how your partner didn’t attend some of your scans…. 👀

My husband came to my 12 week, 21 week, 36 week growth scan and extra growth scan at 38 weeks and I'd have been fuming if he was doing that for something not urgent. He messaged his line manager the times for each one so they knew he wouldn't be contactable during those times and his friend who works with said if there was anything urgent, he'd deal with it and update my husband after.

@Ness Okay first of all I literally said I THINK it literally depends on the person. Secondly i’m giving another real life experience that she may want to compare too? and what about the other comments similar to mine then? You’re coming at me for what? LOL. People on this app can’t cope with other people having a different opinion to them🥱 If his face is nose down in his phone for the duration of the whole scan I’d be like what’s the point in you even being here? If he’s just checking a quick few messages I would not have a care in the world because as I said before I DONT THINK (my opinion) it’s that deep. That better for you? All the info you needed?

@Laura girl, are you okay? 😳👀

@Ness reading properly and critical thinking will take you a long way in future

@Ness Yeah this is exactly how I felt. He wasn't on his phone the whole time but I would have liked him to put his phone away and give his full attention for the short time we were there

@Laura I'm sure everyone feels differently about it and it depends on the person and their partner. Everyone's opinions are absolutely valid. Not "that deep" to some people but to others it's important that their partner is fully present in those moments

I am personally just a very laid back person with things others simply may not be and that’s totally fine. As I’ve already stated I was giving MY opinion answering the question you asked. ‘would you be upset’ and I’ve responded to that by saying my experience and what I feel. I did not degrade anyone else’s opinion in the process. Nor am I saying my opinion should be anyone else’s opinion. You’re more than welcome to feel exactly how you please about any type situation.

If he was checking here and there as it dings and was replying and put it away I wouldn’t mind like Laura said. But I’d be giving him the stink eye if he was sitting there also scrolling because that’s just rude and not needed, and shows he really doesn’t GAF. But if he was 95% present I would let the work msgs go. Even when my hubby has a day off he has his “work wife” or superviser calling him and asking him how to do this or confirming that and that so even on his full days off he really can’t have a break. But I just shrug it off because it’s just work. It’s annoying but what can I do, they rely on him a lot. They may miss something important or totally F up without his input.