what should i do ?

Hey girlies! I’m feeling kinda stuck atm. My bd and i haven’t had the greatest relationship, since the start he was a cheat and lied a lot about everything. I fell pregnant a year and a half in and we both had long talks and decided to keep her as he promised he would change. I feel kind of dumb for believing him since he wasn’t a great guy but i am thankful i will have my baby girl and would do it all again if it meant i’ve got her. I’m just stuck because he was very hot and cold in the start of my pregnancy. I felt like he changed as soon as i was 100% keeping her and things just kept getting worse. We haven’t been together for a while and i even caught him on a dating app a week after we stopped speaking. Obviously i wanted a family and wanted to try for my baby however i cannot trust him no matter what he does. Everything he does i feel like he isn’t being loyal or trustworthy. And everytime i finally get comfortable with the idea of going no contact it’s like i can’t leave him alone. I seriously am just stuck and any advice would help!

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You’ve really got to get into that mindset of once a cheat always a cheat

It's hard to let go, but it will get easier in time. The sooner you cut him loose the sooner you'll be over him. You have to just respect yourself and set clear boundaries of the kind of treatment you will and will not tolerate. It will take time and work, and therapy should help. You'll be happier on the other side of this.

thank you both it’s just so difficult atm, like some days i wake up completely over him other days he’s all i want it sucks

I’ve been there when I was much younger and honestly one day it just switched off in me like a light switch and I never looked back. It’s hard but it will come ❤️

@Laura thank you sm🩷

@Laura same with me! Kept going back then one day I felt nothing when I looked at him

I stayed with my ex until I was 30 weeks pregnant. He was abusive throughout my pregnancy. It also got way worse when I got pregnant than before. It took a lot longer than it probably should have to leave, but once I did I was so much happier. He still gets the state minimum parent time schedule with our daughter, but I feel like I have more control over my life now.

@Sam i hope i feel that way soon

@Lianna i’m sorry about that love, so glad you got out 🩷

Hang in there. Figure out what you need to do for you and your baby.

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