Pregnancy Anxiety
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Yep I had this every time. I would tell myself that if there was going to be something wrong I most likely would have had some kind of sign/feeling prior to my appointment and that it is out of my control so no need to get anxious about something I can’t control. I don’t know if that helps at all.
I had seven pregnancy losses before my successful pregnancy and my anxiety never reduced through it. I did, however, get good help and support from the perinatal mental health team. I would ask your midwife for a referral to them if I were you. My midwife also gave me fortnightly appts (with the option of having them weekly too) from 16 weeks so that I was regularly was being checked on and could hear the heartbeat. That helped me too, so ask if you can have more regular appts if you think it would help you too. Congratulations on your rainbow baby pregnancy x
@Dianne my partner is the same i think. I know he was at the first scan and first appointment to hesr the heartbeat but I think he's less anxious now. It's not everyday that I think it but I get some days where I just worry that I'm going to get told something is wrong, but then I am enjoying the time and im grateful I get the chance again, I think the loss being within the last year has defo made it harder cos that's still a fairly fresh wound x
@Hatti it's so strange it's literally only in the days before the appointment that I get it. I do try and tell myself the same but I've struggled with generalised anxiety disorder on and off for years so idk if my hormones have just heightened what used to be there or
@Daisy hey lovely! Sorry to hear you had 7 losses im glad you got your rainbow! I have been identified as low risk at every appointment which should give me reassurance but I still get worried but only before the appointments. I just know it's not something I can control and that's the toughest bit yano, I'm tryingcto tell myself it's ok I've been taking my vitamins, making sure I eat more etc, making sure I stay hydrated and everything's been OK but you know when it just overwhelms you. I will defo have a chat with my midwife at my next appointment or give them a ring tomorrow, hopefully they'll be able to help. The hospital Im under for my care have been wonderful so far and told me as soon as they saw everything was all good at every occasion as I have mentioned how nervous I am. So hopefully it'll continue. I just want the 20 week out the way to know my baby's ok and to find out what they are and I think it will give me the ease I need for this to be honest x
No advice but I feel you! I just had a MC and I feel like I’m already worried about the next pregnancy I’m not even having yet🙃
@Laura oh bless you! Sorry for your losses lovely! We got pregnant again within less than a year without trying (we weren't exactly preventing either tbf) and everything so far seems fine but I'm still worried and I don't know why. Im way past the 12 week danger zone at 18 weeks+6 and I'm approaching the halfway mark but I just can't help myself but be filled with worry! I'm hoping after my next scan which looks at Fetal Anomalies I will feel a little easier x
I found the 20 week scan the one I was most anxious beforehand for as well. If you think it might help as well, the charity Chasing Rainbows can send you a lanyard to wear to show you are there with a pregnancy after loss so that people can know that you will be more anxious and treat you accordingly. I was high risk because of my previous losses and because of my age but every appt and scan everything was absolutely perfect but the anxiety never let up 😅
I was definitely the most anxious for my 20 week scan with my son, I feel like I could breathe a little lighter once it was done🤣x
This is all really useful thank you ladies. I think a lot of my anxiety has come from the fact I have a posteria placenta and still haven't felt any movements, I keep feeling like I have but I don't know if my minds playing tricks on me and that's what worrying me that somethings wrong cos everyone I've spoken to has said they felt something from 17/18 weeks. Maybe I just have a really awkward child which wouldn't surprise me 🤣
I’d speak to your midwife it sounds like pre-natal anxiety and as you’ve suffered a loss it’s understandable but you also don’t want it to impact you enjoying what are really special and memorable moments for you now and when your baby does arrive. Does your partner share the same thoughts and feelings??