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My opinion do a family thing like a park or movie day a nice dinner do something with the four of you that’s not allot of stress on you or the baby. The baby can get overstimulated I didn’t know that was possible until my baby got overstimulated at 6weeks and 3 days old. It’s possible and it’s heart breaking to see. You got this momma!
Your daughter won't know the difference between having a birthday party and not. If you do decide to have a party, it doesn't have to include everyone and it doesn't have to be anything fancy. Just do something at the park send have someone grill burgers or something. If you do have a party, you can baby-wear and maybe people will get the hint.
Can your husband throw the party for your daughter ar a playground or something and you stay home with your newborn?
Or simply assert your boundaries and just don't share the newborn (it's not easy to do I understand...)
My daughter will be turning 2 right around the time my second is born and we are not doing an official party. At this age it still for the adults and honestly not the kiddos. Your daughter won’t know if she didn’t have a big party with a bunch of people. What about a big special day of stuff all about her? Wake up to balloons and a couple fun gifts. Go out and do something as a family she loves (we might take ours to the zoo), cake or a special treat with candles, etc. Make it about the things she loves! If you decide to have a party, can you do outside like others have suggested? I’d also baby wear the whole time and let people know you won’t be having others hold the baby. People should understand, and if they don’t that is there problem not yours :)
I love all of your advice and ideas! Thank you for sharing with me!
Of course!
I went threw something similar! Don’t feel bad! You’re protecting your little one! I was around a small group of people with my little one around that same age and my baby got sick because I said yes to one person and everyone took it as a yes to all no one listened when I said to give me my child. No one was there to help when my lo got sick no one cared to check in most of all no one cared to tell me they weren’t feeling good. My baby got the consequences of it. Now if you don’t want to throw a birthday party for your daughter you don’t have to! You can do something small with the four of you and either do one later down the road for family or not but you are the one who is carrying the baby you are going through a major surgery while planning and spending money for your babygirl which is stressful in that time it’s bonding with you and your lo not just that but you and baby will be healing from surgery and lo will be healing from being born this is the time for you and your family