Toddler sees me cry

Honestly don't worry. Babies can sense emotions so you need to try be strong and distract yourself. It's also good to see emotions too though. Maybe talk to someone professional about it? X

From what research I’ve seen, it’s ok as long as you give them some context. Like “mommy feels a bit sad but she is going to be ok. We all feel sad sometimes”. I think the biggest issues are if they are made to feel like they need to comfort or take care of you or if the emotions are so erratic that they are scary. Otherwise it’s good for them to learn that all people have feelings and that we can manage them.

@Ruth that not true... if you saw trauma every other day as akid, it does affect them.

Is very very tough but for sake of kids, and babies because they absorb emotions. We don't know if baby is highly sensitive or quiet sensitive and crying if occasional rarely done is different from crying most days. It will change her personality and she will shrink herself to not upset the person already upset. Kids take on care giver roles top and they shouldn't. They kids and they don't understand. I do it behind closed doors but they will feel your upset emotions. So even though ppl cry in front or cry hiding, the burden is on kids because the mood of the parent isn't good. And last which sucks.. they probably inherited this mental health struggle going to be sad all her life in this struggle. Help them instead

@Ali where did I say it doesn't affect them? I said babies sense emotions 🤷‍♀️ so need to be strong. But it is ok if she sees mama sad sometimes. I was trying not to judge her and seek professional help if it's becoming too much. Thanks though 👍

In my opinion, i actually think it's important to show a range of emotions in front of them as long as they are being coped with in a healthy way. Crying is a healthy expression of sadness and is actually scientifically beneficial. It's important to demonstrate healthy coping for negative emotions for your toddler. However, it is absolutely important to vocalize what you are feeling to them and what you are doing about it and what the outcome will be. Such as "mommy is feeling sad right now so i am crying to release the sadness. Mommy will be okay though. It's okay to feel sad sometimes." I think many people see crying as a bad thing and it absolutely is not. It is actually beneficial, healthy, and normal. It's important to normalize it. As they get a bit older and are able to understand more, it's also important to vocalize that it is not their responsibility to make you feel better. But at this age, they may not grasp that yet (nor will they feel the responsibility to make you feel better right now).

@Alex this xx

@Ruth I think also I read, *don't worry and don't need to be strong..* which is similar to its ok don't worry about it and carry on. But I guess you said* be strong? * . The don't worry was above the be strong. My bad. Lot ppl think it's OK to cry or be messy about it. My mother did it and I couldn't.. it was crying and ton of dumping her emotion on me because I was a girl and she was miserable. I also inherited her misery sad emotions and high sensitivity. I wish I didn't. It's curse as a kid I remember it. She thought it OK to be a mess and brushed it off with.. I'm the mum and I can do whatever thinking cause mum's have no judgement in religion and life but thise person didn't say sometimes crying. It was more regular and often and babies can't talk and most toddlers don't have that comprehension. They think they bad and all kids think your upset and mad and crying cause of them and it's true, a lot of stress is cause of having kids and not knowing the mental emotional and financial struggle.

@Ali I was meaning, it's OK, don't worry . It's OK to show emotion but also need to be strong. It's how you handle it and chat to your little one about it. Alex has a very good reply! I'm very sorry you went through that Ali, sounds traumatic, but in your case it wasn't handled well xx

Hey mama, I am so sorry you are going through this.. I also have struggled really bad with my mental health but I have found having my baby has helped me manage my emotions a lot better.. I think so much about how my state of mind will affect her so I am able to suck it up. It’s okay to feel but also be conscious of letting your emotions getting the best of you.. you deserve to be happy. xx

I think it’s okay as long as you also explain to them in short what’s going on, when my daughter sees me cry I will tell her I’m just feeling sad or stressed, that sometimes mom just needs to let them out so they don’t stay stuck inside but I also try to cry in my room or bathroom sometimes so I don’t get questioned. I want her to know feeling her emotions is okay