I feel like I'm slowly losing my mind

That’s hard! Do you think she’s teething? I once asked my fiancé to take care of our 6 month old and he told me he “didn’t feel like it” but he was 100% asleep and doesn’t even remember. Even if he’s the working parent, he needs to get that you also clock out of your job of nanny when he comes home. You’re definitely not wrong, you sound over worked and tired. Try to see if he’d be open to you taking a day off to go do your own thing. Sometimes I ask my fiancé if I could just go grocery shopping by myself to try to get some me time

Did you make that child alone? OK you did not so it’s not your job nor responsibility to care for your child all by yourself. If you don’t stand up for yourself, nobody will and you will wind up, drowning and resent your child because of the overload of responsibility and stress that is now put on entirely you. If you wanted to be a single parent, then you would just leave your man. So he needs to start stepping up as a man that put that child in you and start helping out. I get it hard. Trust me. I have a six month old to. She is a pain in my ass sometimes but we have to love our babies, but we have to love ourselves first so that we can properly love our babies. And loving yourself means being able to advocate and take care of ourselves properly. Trust me I am someone that does not like to ask for help. I like someone to just do it if they see that it is needed to be done so I’m not in the same boat because my man does help me but the times that he is “ too tired from work”

He does not get an off day just as I do not get an off day from my job a.k.a. mom, I did not have this child on my own and she’s not and will never be entirely my responsibility so when he is tired, he is still obligated to care for the child just as much as you are I hope that things get better for you. If you ever need to talk I’m here and I totally understand. My daughter is six months as well so maybe I can try to give you some tips and we can sit on FaceTime and I can help you out. 🩷 if you want to talk more privately my Instagram is tatianna_150

Some men are straight up assholes about the work/home thing. They think because they go to work, they shouldn’t have to “deal” with the children THEY MADE. My husband is occasionally this way and he doesn’t help at night ever because he sleeps in a room opposite side of the house. He snores super loud and has five alarms for work at 4am which wakes everyone up all night. I can say he’s an asshole when he’s still asleep sometimes like that, but I never ask him for help anymore because I honestly don’t trust him to stay awake with the baby. I can handle myself when I’m exhausted but he can’t, he falls asleep holding her. It’s so hard and you deserve so much more. I also feel exactly the same, the only break I get is when I take a bath or if I get up at 5am before the kids. My 6 month old wakes up every two hours again for some reason and last night, my three year old got up twice so I’m hanging on by a thread and some days when I’ve slept 3 hours, it’s my husband who complains the most 🤦🏼‍♀️

So no advice, just solidarity! Men are dicks sometimes. We were back and forth for a year trying to decide whether or not we’d separate because it was an endless cycle with him just being an asshole but something clicked one day and he’s been at least 80% better so idk. The longest break I’ve gotten so far is for a dentist appointment and I actually enjoyed the dentist for once 😂 sometimes I don’t give him a choice and I’ll tell him I’m going to the store and he’s watching the kids. But even then he fights it like he can’t handle watching them both for two hours without help… but then tells me all the time that he’d LOVE to be a stay at home dad and not work? Ok buddy. You can’t even keep your piss in the toilet and I’m the one who cleans it, let’s switch 🤷🏼‍♀️

Are you able to say it’s been really hard and I can use your support. Find times where we both get “our time” whether it’s an hour here and there. When I was still pregnant and trying to plan what my maternity leave would look like (who does the late/ early shift with the baby) he initially was surprised he would be expected bc I was “off”. Had to educate him on being a parent isn’t ever “being off” and we both needed sleep! Not just the one who leaves the house to go to work. I also used to send him Instagram videos of this topic both funny and serious

Hey I’m a SAHM too. My son will be 6 months old on the 25th. If u ever just wanna text or FaceTime to just have company or rant or just relate please feel free to reach out to me. It’s a full time job and isn’t easy.