Early terrible twos??

Anyones else really struggling with their toddlers? Mine 16 months and i swear shes already going through terrible twos.
I just dont know how to deal with it im struggling with the stress?!

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There's a development leap around now, mines currently going through it, sleep regression and new skills being learnt. She gets frustrated because she understands but cant communicate, not sure if your little ones the same. I find that when she gets angry just process of elimination... point to mummy, what would you like... or show mummy... I find her nappys are horrendous to change, we now do this standing up, but she's better if told what's happening first or explain to her, it's nappy time soon, are you ready. It's really tough but I hope it helps even just a little knowing your not alone xx

Yep my 16 month old is exactly the same we've had early terrible twos for about 3-4 weeks now. It is really hard to deal with whens hes having a tantrum, he's so strong as well so can be a nightmare the more he's distracted or entertained the better he is! So I just ry to take him out a few times a week when I can even if it's just for a walk down my local highstreet (I live right next to it) and he seems much calmer and happier x

How do you both deal with it, i dont know how to explain what i mean.
Its constantly where she is not listening or shes doing something naughty, i know she is still young but she does understands “no” “get down” ect but then when i do say these things and remove her from climbing or doing something she does then its a massive tantrum.
Even just down to the smallest of things.

My boy had a full on meltdown because I wouldn’t let him carry round his pooey nappy bag this morning. I’ve never seen anything like it 😵‍💫😵‍💫

Yeah same here, my girl is 16 months and having tantrums, she does this awful gut wrenching screech when something isn’t going her way, stamps her feet and clenches her fists 🤦🏼‍♀️

Tantrums are in full swings with my 16 month old too, had our first public meltdown this week because I wouldn't let him in the pond with the ducks. 😬😬😂😂 where has my chill baby gone?

omg same had our first one the other day too because i put her coat on after we finished having lunch in the pub!!

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I'm open to anything else to start teaching him to read and write. He's 3!

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Been together more than 10 years, but it's been a while since he even seemed remotely interested in me getting on my knees, or vice versa so to speak. I think it was once last year. Must be something I am doing wrong 🤔. Generally everything else in that department is great and we have two young kids with no extra support, so it's quite surprising we can't keep our hands off each other but may need to try new things. It's basically 2 positions each time with some foreplay.

I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

Naps

How is everyone doing for naps?

Little one is 9 months old and will have 2 half hour naps and one solid 1 hour - 2 hour nap a day

Then settles for night around 9pm. Wakes for a feed around 3:30 then sleeps until 6-7

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I’m really looking for advice and opinions on vaccines for my baby. I’m not against getting them but also just don’t feel like I know enough about them to make a decision just yet as I’ve had people say to me they don’t agree with them and they can cause issues etc… so I just want as much info as possible. What are everyone’s thoughts and experiences of vaccinating your child? I’m just interested to see everybody’s views (no judgement as I just want to know I’m doing the right thing) thank you x

Vanilla extract

Has anyone used alcohol free vanilla in their babies formal to help them drink?
I’m 100% sure my baby refuses her bottles as she doesn’t like the taste of it!

Just anxious to try it, don’t want her to get used to it and then refuse bottles again after two weeks of using (correct me if I’m wrong but I’ve read you use it for 2 weeks max)

TIA 🙂