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I don’t know what to do anymore! My 3 yo boy is making me so miserable. I love him so much but not sure what to do. He screams constantly, he acts like he’s spoilt, I can’t take him anywhere and he won’t listen. I know I’m probably preaching to the choir here but he’s out of control. We use the “step” when he’s naughty but it doesn’t seem to help. I’ve tried aspects of gentle parenting too. It’s worse when he’s tired so early evening until bedtime but he won’t nap unless in the car. His new normal way of communicating is to shout and scream and I’ve tried to stay calm but it’s really hard. Please tell me I’m not alone and this is a phase. Sorry had to rant for a bit.

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You are definitely not alone. I wish I knew what to suggest to help 😞

So my LG did this for a long while but has thankfully out grown it. This is going to be so controversial I’m sure I’ll get judged but it worked… I stayed really calm all the time and quite literally ignored the behaviour. If needs be I’d put my loop headphones in and just ignore her and carry on with what I was doing. Eventually she learnt she wasn’t going to get a reaction or any sort of attention from me by behaving like that. When she stopped screaming I would go to her and calmly tell her that behaviour was not ok and I was sad with it, over time the screaming lessened when she realised mummy would talk to her once she was calm. It was a hard journey don’t get me wrong & I know they can make you want to scream but also they are 3 and learning to self regulate. Good luck x

Thank you, that’s so helpful. I will try this and see if it works. At this point I’ll try anything xx

You have my full sympathy. Also just to clarify I did make sure that she was genuinely ok before I ignored her. Once I knew she wasn’t crying because she was in pain, and it was a genuine temper tantrum then I would let her calm down because when they are up there screaming you won’t be able to get through! X

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