How to stop breastfeeding

My son is 17 months and is still really reliant on breastfeeding. I am
Desperate to stop but I don’t know how! He’s never had formula so we have never really used bottles that regularly, only with expressed breast milk and I don’t want to start pumping again. He wants boob at bedtime, overnight and in the morning. He would also have it at random times in the day and he sometimes asks, but I’ve managed to stop that. Any tips would be really appreciated, I really want to stop 😩

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Does he take cows milk at all?

I am also in the same position except mine wants to feed all day too 😅 I’m trying to cut down by giving him other drinks instead but it’s not that successful so far

Maybe try introducing bottles of water, normal milk and formula during the day getting him used to other drinks not just BM. If you have a partner or someone else who can put him to bed then get them to do bed time (if the before bed feed is an actual feed, rather than nursing, then have them try a bottle of something with him.

I phased out breastfeeding at 10 months with my LB and we did these sorts of things. I did a mix of my milk and formula for a period of time, increasing to just formula (but appreciate you said you don't want to pump). Then we did the same after 12 months with cows milk and formula combination and by 13 months he was on mainly water and a bit of cows milk (his choice). Found the phasing worked well. I guess it's harder when they're older as they are more vocal with wanting boob if that's what they're used to, I have friends in similar situations, it's tough. Good luck!

Im in the same boat. My Lg is almost 18m and im trying to stop breastfeeding but she is very desperate to have it before bed, overnight and for first feed in the morning, sometimes she ll ask in the day as well. Even though she takes little cow milk before bed she needs my feed to get her asleep. When my partner try to rock her and sleep she wll be crying and asking me for feed. It is getting very difficult to make her stop :(

I heard putting natural aloe Vera gel in your nipples to make it taste bad

Baby can go straight to whatever milk you want them to have. They don't need formula now. Try introducing in a straw cup like a regular drink. If your partner can step in for bedtime that could help too. You've done amazing, well done!

Please do not put anything on your nipples to make them taste bad, that’s so cruel.

Hey have a look at Emma Pickett on Instagram, shared lots of info on this and runs workshops on it. She also has a podcast called ‘makes milk’ I think x

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