Second baby?

I could have written this myself x

@Jessica can we chat ? Xx

Would be nice to talk to someone in the same boat xx

Of course! X

Took me 4 years to feel ready to get pregnant again so I can not in any way relate to this 😂 but I will say I have valued my years just me and my boy so much! I wouldn’t change them for the world. And now he’s gone to school and his little sister has arrived just in time to save me from the sadness of him growing up. I get to have all those memories with her now too. But I suppose it wouldn’t have been any different if I had 2 at the same time to make those memories with - just harder for me 😂

Honestly I’m the exact same! Took us 4 years to have our little girl who will be 4 months next week and we have just started trying for baby number 2! Xxx

@Georgie how did u know it was the right choice tho 🙈 I’m just nervous 😂 xx

@Jess I feel like that’s the exact age gap I don’t want 🙈 my sisters just turned 4 and having her with my LO is sooo difficult cos she’s at the age where she’s all over everything 😂 so for me it’s either gotta be really soon or like at least 5 yrs down the line 😫 xxx

Honestly I don’t think you’ll know 100% but we went back and forth for about a month and then had a scare last month and we were disappointed to not be think that’s when we just knew. It’ll be a big adjustment for all of us when it happens (hopefully) but I’d much rather have them close together where my daughter won’t really know the difference in having a sibling rather than years apart where she might feel left out! Xx

That’s how I felt ! So disappointing to see the not positive , I was an only child for four years and then my brother was born … it was alright at first but even now I find myself thinking what if it was still just me and mum … 😫 xx

I totally get that. I’m 1 of 5 and my daughter is the 10th grandchild on my side of the family so I just knew I didn’t only want one baby and I’d much rather have the close in age so they can be as close and me and my siblings! It is a really difficult decision isn’t it! Xx

You should go for it, I am x

@Georgie Yh defo I’m the oldest of 6 now , youngest just turned 4 … I’m 20 it’s a rediculous age gap and I just got left babysitting all the time 🤦‍♀️😂

@Zara I’m gonna do it just need some support 😂 xxx

Eee bless ya, my oldest sister was the same! Shes 35 and my youngest brother is 20 in April. Defo go for it! I can’t wait to see my girl as a big sister! Xx

@Georgie Aw I hadn’t even thought of that my baby girls gonna be a big sister ! Xx

To me, I carefully consider 1. How's my body healing now with 3 months old? 2. How's my mental health? 3. Do I have a supportive partner? And or 'the village' as in supportive family/friends? 4. Would we be ok financially? 5. Do I have time and space? For me, to care and love a baby, there is a lot to consider. I want the best I can give to baby, being fed is not enough, baby needs time, attention, money, all for the best development and education. I want to raise my baby to the best quality of life because he deserves it. It's my partner and my choice to bring the baby into life, not baby's. So I ask myself, am I ready now? Obviously everyone situation is different. Do what you think is right for you x

Can honestly say I’m healing amazingly , I have the most supportive partner and family, financially we’d be at the same point we are now as all the big things I already have for baby # 1 and the little things don’t affect it that much , I definitely have the time and the space we’d need wouldn’t be for quite some time and we would be looking to move again by that point anyway , my mental health has never been 100% I started noticing around 11-12 ish that my mind was different but I’ve got so many ways of calming myself and regulating everything that it’s not an issue anymore xx I believe I’d be able to care for both my babies as I did it for a job for 4.5 yrs , childcare , nannying , babysitting I did it all only real difference is that I’d be breastfeeding both and I plan on home schooling as well as the amount of love I have for them of course ! 🥰 xx I think I can do it it’s just that doubt in the back of my head that I think we’ve all felt at least once in this motherhood journey

It's good to hear you have all you need and supportive family and partner 😊 in that case if I were you I'd definitely would consider a second baby! Dont feel guilty about giving a new sibling! nobody's perfect and all we can do is to be the best momma for them ❤

I’m planning to start trying again when she turns one 😊

I could have written this too but we have decided to hold off trying until our son is 1.. just because we are finishing doing our house up and I want to make the most of my time with Henry as a baby and not being pregnant (I had a terrible pregnancy). I'm so broody though! I thought I'd be done, we weren't planning on having anymore but that soon changed!

@Natasha aw bless ! My original plan was to start trying around her 1st bday but idk anymore xx

I have 2 under 2 and honestly it’s the best thing we could have done! Some days are hard but it’s so worth it! I would just go for it if you are ready x