Grandparents!!!!!!!!!

I’m 37+2 and my mum is stressing me out so much 😭 she thinks she’s parent #3 to my baby, saying things like “when my baby is here” “we’re having a baby soon”, even people at her work are asking if HER baby is here yet!!!! I spoke to her on the phone tonight and she mentioned about waiting in the hospital while I’m in labour and I said no, I’ll let her know when I’m in labour but there’s no point in waiting around as it could be hours until I give birth. She seemed fine at the time but she’s then thought about it, had a bit to drink (she’s an alcoholic) and text me saying I’ve upset her. At the end of the day, it’s MY baby, MY body, MY birth, I don’t even have to tell her I’m in labour if I don’t want to! I think it’s so selfish of her to even tell me I’d upset her as if she has a right to be there. I think the main issue is the fact that she was a single mum and my nana took on the role of dad pretty much. My mum lived with my nana and my nana was there for my birth, they shared night feeds together, raised me together, etc. so I think my mum thought she was going to have more involvement, but I’m not going to be a single mum as I have my partner. She can’t seem to understand this and seems jealous of my partner, saying snide comments like “no one is going to get a look in with *partner*, he won’t let anyone hold the baby”. Arghhhhh, it’s stressing me out so much!!! I should not be feeling like this with less than 3 weeks until my due date. I can’t believe how much she has pissed me off. She does not have a right to MY baby whatsoever. I just needed a rant, I absolutely will be telling her all of this tomorrow (when she’s not drunk) and how selfish she is being stressing me out like this. I can actually feel my blood pressure rising just thinking about it again 🤣

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Honestly girl I’m with you!!! Some of the entitlement from some family members I’ve honestly had enough. Gets to the point sometimes where I just regret having a baby😂 but I wanted my baby. I had a loss not long before, but it’s like everyone’s attitudes change and you really see the true actions of people when you’re about to drop. Under 2 weeks away from baby being here and honestly ready to hide away it’s gotten so bad 😂❤️

I keep getting told by multiple partners nan “you have to give birth on the 12th March because that’s my birthday I won’t accept any other day and I’ll be upset” she says it everytime she sees me like I can just pick what day I give birth on. But I’ve recently really annoyed her because I replied with “no it’s not happening and even if I could choose what day it won’t be the 12th because she’s not sharing your birthday and if I was too pick a day it’d be the 10th March because that’s my nans birthday and she’s dead”😂 bit brutal but I’m sick of her saying it she hates what we’re calling her too because I’ve named her after my nan and not her… I’m now praying they induce me early so I don’t even have the slightest chance she can come on the 12th

It's so good that you have your partner and an extra pair of hands, your mom who is very keen. I can relate that it can get too much at times and its tiring setting boundries, but she just wants to be there for you because she loves you and knows how hard it can be. And even if she waits in the corridor the whole time, at least you have that reassurance that she's there for you if you need her. Be empathetic to your mum when you talk to her tomorrow. She is probably going through a lot herself.

@Sasha Agreed. Her mum just wants to help because she had help herself. It’s not coming from a malicious place. Be kind to her.

If you have all of these feelings about what your mom says and does, then definitely let her know how you feel. Let her know you love her and want her to be involved, but only involved as a grandma and not as involved as a parent. Let her know the baby is yours and your partner’s responsibility——not hers. This is a moment to share with your partner! Basically an “I love you, but back off” Sometimes people get carried away with excitement and don’t handle disappointment very well.

My mum acted entitled when I said I wanted a week before anyone visits my baby she replied "well no I don't have to wait a week do I " I said yes you do it's the same rule for EVERYONE she thinks because she's my mum she has some sort of vip rights I ended up saying if u come uninvited I'll just send you home 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Don’t tell her when you go into labour!

Due with my second and honestly after my first I am so much more comfortable with setting boundaries ! My Mum is very chilled however my MIL…….😖 is a whole other thing in general! No is going to be my favourite word. People need to remember that they don’t have automatic rights to your children and being there is a privilege not a right

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