Worried about friendship

I voted no, The only reason I’d want to distance myself and family a bit was if you seemed abusive in your reaction, or the opposite and just let your kid to whatever. Kids will be kids, but parents also need to correct, redirect, and communicate. So, I think you’re probably fine unless she’s overly judgmental haha ☺️

I say no, was he hitting or kicking ? What was some of the behavior?

@Rachel I was going to type this exactly!

Unless it was something extreme the answer is no. We as mothers have to acknowledge our kids are gonna have bad days and so do others babies. New environments can trigger the testing of boundaries and sometimes it’s just not our day.

Both boys are 3. Her son was having trouble allowing mine to play with toys totally normal toddler behavior. Her son also bit mine. But my kiddo was just being loud running around a lot. I'd tell him to stop but he wasn't listening well to the rules (i don't spank or use offensive language). She offered a snack of sliced apples and he threw a fit bc he likes them whole which i talked him through it and calmed him. Near the end he was playing more roughly and also threw a extreme tantrum when I said time to go home

I would address the awkward elephant and say something like, “Gosh that play date was something else today, huh? I loved catching up with you but my son was having a hard time, sorry about that. How do you feel like (her son) did?” Let it be a dialogue, you’re both moms figuring out the parenting thing. It could be a relief, she might be embarrassed that her kid bit someone.

Depends on the behaviour tbh. If he was being physical with my child or displaying mean behaviour then I'd possibly distance ngl. Although, I'm not a fan of really boisterous kids either

@Lara I wouldn't say that. Asking her how she thinks her son went seems really judgy, when she probably didn't give a second thought to any of the behavioural stuff.

I always really feel for the mum of the kid ‘acting up’ (normal behaviour) in situations like that because we have all been there and majority of the time you just knowww the mum is stressed inside!!

All this is completely normal threenager behaviour!

@Minna i agree ..maybe I'm just over thinking it. It's just nice to have a friend and I feel like we could be life long besties I just don't want 1 bad time to be a bust

We all have off days, toddlers included. If yall have hung out she has seen you parent him outside and she has been to yours and seen you parent him at home...I'm sure she has some idea of the kind of parent you are and she keeps hanging with you so she probably thinks you're cool. It was a new environment. It happens. I'd stop hanging if you were mean to your kid or if your kid was a terror and you didn't try to help him with his behavior. I wouldn't cut someone off because their toddler had a shitty day at my place. We can laugh about it later.

@C thanks this definitely made me feel better about the situation.

If her LO bit yours - she’s prob worried about the same thing

@Ella What on earth is judgy about saying, “My son seemed to be having a hard time, how do you feel like yours coped?” 🤨

Many chances that she is worried about the same thing 😉 Toddlers are unpredictables, she’s a toddler mom and she knows it no worries !! They have good and bad days, they can easily be perturbed by different environment, new things, new people! The only thing that would make me cut a friendship would be a bad respond of the mom like abuse or doing absolutely nothing, because I can’t agree and see these bad parenting in my watch. I would write a message saying it was lovely seeing you as usual, but apologies for the mess, usually my son is not behaving that bad, but today seemed not have been a great day :/ hope we’ll have more luck next time ! Something like that 🤔

@Lara because the implicit message in that is "your son seemed to be having a hard time". Like it's a comment on his behaviour. Idk it just comes off as passive aggressive to me.