Advice please!

I’m literally at my wits end now. My girl has been waking up every single night since December. I really don’t know what to do now. It’s at a point where it will be multiple times a night, and she will cry/scream/whinge for at least 2 hours! It’s like having a newborn again. But she was always such a good baby too😰so I really don’t know what is going on. We have spoken with the health visitor who were no help at all! They couldn’t advise or offer support. I’m just wondering what else I can do to help her because I’ve been a walking zombie for the past 7 weeks now. I don’t know how much longer we can carry on with this. When she does eventually calm down I’ll ask her why she’s crying, if she’s had a bad dream etc, but she’ll just say “I was just crying” lol which is not helpful at all. And then she’ll say she just wants cuddles etc. We’ve also tried bringing her into the bed but it doesn’t make a difference. She’s a right mummy’s girl, which makes it that much harder because my husband cannot help even if he wanted to. I also have a 21 month old, and sometimes she will wake her up as well because of how loud she can get. I just need any sort of advice to help please🥹

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So sorry you're going through such a hard time. 😔 sleep deprivation is the worst especially with another toddle to look after as well. Mine started acting up at bedtime since she was 2.5 asking for cuddles every night. It was also difficult as I had my youngest who would co sleep and the two woudnt fall asleep at the same time so had to keep them seperate at the time until bedtimes matched and now I co sleep with both my youngest in his cot attached to my bed and both sleep well now. If possible could you or your husband put up room with her for a few months and see if that helps. I would say it would need to be consistent so she trusts that there's someone in the room with her and that your not going to leave. It ound like fear of waking alone if she has no reasons. Even after cosleeping with my daughter, she would still wake at the same time each night to make sure I was in bed with her and hadn't deserted the room. It took her roughly 5 months to trust I'll be in bed and won't leave her x

It’s so hard have you tried napping her during the day? My son done this and I had to nap him for a couple of hours a day he’s back to not napping again now xx

No help I'm sorry but just know you're not alone. We've been going through the same since July 2024. We've tried everything, even oaid for a sleep consultant which did t work. We've resorted to putting her to sleep in her own bed then she ends up coming into our room anywhere between 11 snd 1am. We either put her back and have to stay with her (sometime ashes wakes again sometimes sleeps til 6am) but usually we don't have the energy so partner has to get out of our bed and sleep in hwrs whilst she sleeps with me. She won't allow him in our bed with her glued to my side. We're at that point of just doing what we have to to get sleep. It won't last forever.... I hope!!! Xx

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