@Rose thank you, and you’re absolutely correct she’s not in a good place mentally and it worries me
I’m really sorry to hear that, and I hope she has the support she needs - though I know people with BPD will often reject help. It sounds to me like you need to do whatever will bring you the most peace of mind, and that’s something only you can know x
Sometimes, you need to put your own mental health first and not allow people to treat you like that. Even family. My brother made no secret that he hated my now husband when we started dating right after my divorce 7.5 years ago. He was so toxic that I blocked and didn't talk to my brother for 3 years before he pulled his head out of his ass, had a good talk with myself and with my husband, and decided to move past it. Our relationship is still being repaired but if he gets out of line I tell him so. Even with your sister having bpd, that's no excuse to be like that with you and your husband and you don't have to make her problems your problems. It's okay to set boundaries and sometimes those boundaries need to be no contact to protect yourself. I'm sorry you're going through this, it's never easy and people will judge you because "it's family" but you need to stand up for yourself and your husband and child.
Oh this is so hard, and I’m so sorry you’re going through this 😔 BPD is a serious illness and impacts on everyone around the person who has it - I know you love your sister and you must feel so torn between wanting her in your life and wanting to protect your peace. I think you need to ask yourself whether you would regret not unblocking her if something were to happen to her, as the risk of that eventuality is a lot greater for people with BPD. Regret is one of the hardest things to live with in the long term, so I think it’s really important to know that you’re completely okay with your decision whichever way it goes. Wishing you all the best 💗