Will i ever feel normal again???

I can't comment on the stitches opening, you poor thing that must have been so painful. However I also had a third degree tear and felt under pressure when I still felt uncomfortable for weeks and people saying "oh are you still not feeling right, is that normal'. Even without a tear it can take a long time for your body to feel normal, it's gone through a massive thing delivering a baby. I was lucky that I got referred into physio, I don't know if you have had this? But my physio was amazing and was constantly reassuring me that it will take time and it's going to take more than a few weeks. I tried my best to do my pelvic floor exercises that she went through with me but also allowing myself rest time and making sure not to spend too much time sitting and putting pressure on the area but instead resting by lying on my side. Give yourself the time, and if you feel something isn't right get yourself another check up for the reassurance.

Not exactly had a tear, but they had to cut me open for forceps delivery. My wound opened after 4 weeks and got infected. The pain was incredible. It took 6 months until my wound was fully closed and healed. But eventually, I got to feel normal again. I know how draining it's mentally and physically just hang in there mama you got that. Everything will get better, and you will feel normal again !

First off momma you are strong and you can do this ❤️💪🏼 it toom me about a year to heal from mine. I had 15 stitches inside the vagee. My scar was so sensitive so being intimate was rough for a year or so. Everyone's bodies are different so don't let others be discouraging. Try sitz baths and just keep using your peri bottle until it's healed. The dema spray really helped me, and the instant ice pads on Amazon from medline ( I used them on the outside of my underwear so they didn't stick to anything) . I'm sorry you have had a rough road. Just hang in there momma and if you need to find another doctor for a second opinion.

Ugh. 2 weeks! It took me months to feel better sitting and certain other activities took at least a year to resume comfortably. I don’t understand these unrealistic timelines. Are bodies need time to heal.

My friend had a 3rd degree tear and honestly it took her over 9+ months to feel better again. I’m not sure where people have got 2 weeks from?! Have you got any family around that could help? And I know your husband has been at work etc, but does he not get time off/or did he not take paternity leave?

Breast feeding can slow healing. So typically yes 2 weeks but that doesn't account for breast feeding situations. Once you're healed fully scar massage will help the area feel better because it helps break down any lesions that have formed.

@Louise Thank you so much for sharing your experience and for the reassurance it really helps to hear from someone who’s been through it. I have been referred to physio, and it’s been helpful, but it’s still hard not to feel pressured when people make comments that make me question if this is normal. I’m trying to be patient with my recovery, and your advice about resting on my side and taking my time is really reassuring. I really appreciate your kindness and support!!

@Livia I can imagine how incredibly tough that must have been for you. It’s really reassuring to hear that, even though it took time, you eventually felt normal again. Thank you for your encouragement and kind words -it truly means a lot!

@Maire Thank you so much for your support and encouragement! Hearing that it took you about a year to heal helps me feel less alone in this journey. I’ve been using the peri bottle and trying different things, but I’ll definitely look into the dema spray and ice pads. It’s really reassuring to know that healing takes time and that I’m not the only one who’s been through something tough like this. I really appreciate you sharing your experience.

@Natalie I totally agreed—healing takes time, and it’s frustrating when people expect quick recovery. I’m trying to be patient with my body and give it the time it needs.

And truely, our bodies are never the same. It’s ok. But the expectation that full healing and bouncing back into pre-baby clothes and healthy intimacy is sick. It’s like a second puberty. We’re older, more mature and our bodies are going to be different.