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Don't you worry I'm in the same boat. My parents have been here for the last week of pregnancy, my birth and now 4 weeks of newborn. They leave next week and I am so scared. I know I will cope because I don't have a choice but I don't know how and the how is the worry to me also. Also have three cats that are very demanding! My two main philosophies are 1. bugger the routines, we're doing what works when it works and if that's staying in bed all day then so be it we'll try again tomorrow. 2. It'll get easier eventually, and if it doesn't get any easier we just get better at it 😌 Be gentle to yourself. If you started a new fast paced job that you had never done before in your life you wouldn't expect to have all the answers yet so there's no reason you should expect to have the answers now
🫂💕 Honestly, you're not relying on your mum "too much" - you need the rest. You somehow find a way to manage when your support isn't there (my partner went back to work and I panicked about how I'd cope, but post-cesarean and a few weeks old and I managed to get the pushchair down the steps to leave my flat! 💪). You're still going to need naps. You're going to need rest. You need to be kind to yourself about it because you're putting pressure on yourself - try to tackle each issue separately and if it doesn't work, try again the next day. It will be okay.
Even though you feel like you’re struggling, it sounds like you’re doing amazingly with everyone you have overcome! Don’t be so hard on yourself, it’s hard accepting support when you just want to be back to your normal self! It will come, keep your head up! Keep doing what you’re doing, I’m positive you are an amazing mum!
Never feel bad to have the support you need. I was felling the same, I had issues after the birth of my little girl and my MIL came to stay with us for a month so I could rest and recover. But I felt bad for sleeping so much and not doing much. My husband kept reminding me to enjoy it and that I needed this rest to then have energy to take care of her and he was right. I was also worried on hiw I will care for her on my own. Now I'm better and he is back at work, MIL left too, so I'm alone with her during the day, I'm still trying to find a good routine but I manage well to care for her. You got this, you will find what's work for you. For instance us, we prepare the bottles in advance, they are good for 24h stored in the fridge. It helps so much, especially at night, even if I know it's not the recommended way to do it but I did my research.
We all sleep upstairs and we go downstairs ar night to warm bottles as needed, usually my husband does it. Sleeping in your bed will help having better rest I think. I just don't have the time to eat healthy during the day but I'll make sure to have a nice dinner.
thank you to all of you amazing ladies for your valid points, I sometimes feel like I'm the only one struggling but it's not easy for any of us and we all try our best at the end of the day 🙏🏻 you're all wonderful human beings too, so glad my boy will be growing up with the kids you all are bringing up 🩵
Be kind to yourself. It's hard having a newborn, let alone when you're recovering from major surgery and exceptionally sleep deprived. Don't feel guilty for taking help... The mentality of raising children has always been that it takes a village! You'll find your stride when the time comes for your mum to leave. It's hard, but so worth it. You don't get much back from babies at the beginning which always makes the newborn phase a bit boring and draining for me, but once they start developing it is onwards and upwards. You've got this mumma xx