He’s walking away because he can’t take baby to see his mother

I mean if you split, on his time he will likely take her anyway so it’s not worth arguing over. Sit down and explain that it works both ways with visiting mum and mum visiting you, put boundaries in place with your partner and listen to his side aswell x

wtf I would not be taking my son there if you can’t be respectful towards me you won’t be seeing us. And he’s definitely not going anywhere without me.

@Sabina I just can’t seem to get any response via text from her to even conversate with the woman! And he backs her all the time x

I would just try and have a talk with him and if he won’t listen or try to understand then tell him your child isn’t going anywhere without you definitely somewhere your not respected or feel comfortable. You gave birth to that baby sometimes you need to be more firm I’ve regretted every time I tried to be nice or compliant If I don’t feel comfortable that a valid enough reason. How old is your lo if you don’t mind me asking?

@Sabina he’s 11 months, I’ve got his birthday next month and I don’t know how I’m supposed to organise a party with that side of the family not playing up x

And she’s only seen him 5 times ?! Yeah that’s a good enough reason how would he even be comfortable there without his mom he hardly even knows her.

@Sabina yes and there’s been huge gaps between latest gap was July to December x

Ugh that’s rough I would just tell them no that’s not an option and that’s not happening especially someone who barely put any effort to see their grand baby and expects you to bring him to her. That’s crazy. If she wants to work something out she can reach out to YOU his mother but other than that don’t go out of your way to bring him there or feel uncomfortable knowing he’ll be there without you

@Sabina honestly it’s like dealing with children! X

Yeah it really is 🤣 i definitely wasn’t expecting all this before having him with all the family members and having to set boundaries and repeating myself about MY child didn’t realize how difficult people are 🙄 but there’s always someone who loves to make it harder on us for whatever reason

@Sabina how do you manage? X

My biggest thing was kissing him and they would still try to do it when I came over once with him she did it anyways and when I said something she laughed so I grabbed the baby from her hands packed up our shit and left I’ve told them how serious I was from the jump and people always tested me my mom my dad my mil it drove me crazy so I would just leave and not bring him around until they realized I was being serious and stopped doing it. Anytime someone did something I specifically asked them not to I would just take him right from their hands I don’t owe anybody anything it’s so ridiculous gave myself a peace of mind and stayed home

We’re all good now tho it was just rough at first because people didn’t take me serious it felt like

@Sabina I feel like my lo has just been a toy for his mother and because she’s not been able to dictate stuff she’s kicked up this big mess x

I hate that ! He’s not for your entertainment 🙄

@Sabina it’s the lack of respect that gets me, I’m his mom without me he wouldn’t be here I gave birth to him x

Exactly what makes people think just because they have a title in that babies life they’ll have access to them without respecting the mother

Why are you still with him if he threatened to leave you to get his own way?

Is this really a hill you wanna die on? As long as she isn't a danger to your child, then why stop him from taking your son out of spite? I'd personally make the most of some child free time at home whilst he takes your son for a visit! If you split he will do it anyway, so go with it and be the bigger person!

My partners mum suddenly has a fear of going on the train. She recently visited York by train no problem, it's my sons christening and she's trying to use the fear of trains excuse 🙄