Baby and smoking

Am I wrong? My in laws both smoke. I am fully aware of how dangerous second and third hand smoke is to a child. Our little boy is 13 months. When he was born we made it very clear if they had been smoking they had to remove their jacket before giving him a hug. MIL doesn't like the idea and even sometimes had to be reminded. Last time they visited my partner reminded her as she went to pick him after she had been smoking. She rolled her eyes at him. I kept my mouth shut. This time they are staying, she has come back in from smoking and taken her jacket off great. But picked him straight up and kissed him. Am I wrong in being angry with her?

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You're not wrong and you can tell her why it's wrong to do that.

Id start making them feel embarrassed by calling it filthy, gross, unhygienic, dirty etc.. Shame her into stopping

Not wrong at all. I’d have a step further and made her brush her teeth, and wash hands x

I mean if your boy is 13 months old and they are still doing it then imo they’re not taking you seriously. I honestly don’t understand why people are so selfish when it comes to respecting the boundaries of other parents. I think you and your husband need to have a serious word with your in-laws and say we’re grateful you’ve taken on board removing your jackets etc but please can you refrain from holding/kissing him for at least 30 minutes after smoking, you might think this isn’t a big deal but to us it really is and we need you to respect that. Our son’s safety is our priority here. Let them huff/puff and roll eyes but if you’re stern about it they will listen, if not I’d purposely wait for them to come back in from a cig and pick up my child and take them to another room for 30 mins until they get the message loud and clear!

@Poppy this doesn't work to any smokers I've known, they care too much about the bad habit, even defend why they do it

@Emma I asked my mum this and she says this is my home so no I won't

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