What appointments do partners go to?

It’s up to you. I don’t take my partner to midwife appointments as they are pretty routine and nothing really happens but I do take him to scans and hospital appointments.

You can take a partner to all appointments if you want. My husband came to most of my midwife appointments last time (2023)

It’s up to you.

My husband came to my 12 week scan, 16 week consultant appointment, 20 week scan (and the repeat we had to have), we had extra growth scans with consultant review as we’ve had twins so he came to a couple but not all. He came to I think my last 3 hospital appointments as I was struggling walking and feeling light headed and dizzy a lot (particularly as it was quite warm) so it was more to make sure I was safe getting there as the womens unit was a fair treck through the hospital. He didn’t come to any of my routine midwife appointments (I’m a midwife myself so he’d already heard the heartbeats at home and I was able to answer any of the midwife questions he had)

It is helpful for partners to go to the birth plan appointment if you get one as they need to be part of that plan and understand the things we’re offering too as they are very much your advocate in labour when you’re at your most vulnerable

(Not in this group, it came up in my fyp, I’m due may)
My partner goes to private and 12 and 20 week scans. Other than that, he needs to be at work earning or we’re screwed. My mums coming with me for growth scans, and my dads looking after my 2 year old whilst we go 🤣

It’s up to you! Midwife likes you to attend first appointment alone as there’s some questions they ask where they don’t want your partner there. First pregnancy my partner attended all scans and about 70% midwife appts. 2nd pregnancy he didn’t really come to my midwife appts except 1 and the sweep attempt. He tried to come to all my scans but we had nobody to look after our boy for 1 of them (I had extra due to GD) x

My husband attended the first midwife appointment as it was our first baby and both wanted to understand the process etc. I had a high risk pregnancy, so he attended every hospital appointment with me (roughly every 2 weeks throughout), but didn't attend any additional midwife appointments with me, but he would have been welcome if he wanted to. It's completely up to you both 😊

not always true. I actually prefer partners there as you get a clearer view of family history. Especially if mum to be doesn’t know much about the partners or families medical history.

There’s also a lot of information given out in that first appointment that is useful for partners to know (food safety in pregnancy etc)

The domestic violence question we ask at the first appointment can almost guarentee it will never be disclosed at that appointment. It takes on average 10 contacts before a patient will disclose anything.

I had my first baby in 2020 so I wasn’t allowed anyone to any appointments at all including scans etc.

This time round my mum was allowed in midwife after 10 minutes due to person questions but my partner will be able to come to every single appointment, currently on the spectrum of high risk, so he will be able to come to the extra appointments etc xxx

He can attend all appointments if you wish. I brought mine to my first appointment. The midwives are very welcoming.