Separation Anxiety Help!
My boyfriend (LO father) has just taken our LO out for a couple hours so i can get some rest because i have a migraine. This is only the second time I’ve been away from my LO. The first was a couple days ago when my boyfriend took our LO to see his mum for a few hours.
I feel like I’m missing a chunk of me and my heart feels so heavy. I burst out crying as soon as they left (i worked hard to keep it together for my boyfriends sake, smiling and being excited for them etc before they left because it’s not him at all, he’s great with our LO, it’s a me problem) meanwhile inside i had so much anxiety and didn’t want my LO to leave.
Please, how can i improve this feeling. I see so many mums going out and enjoying time away from their LO and I just feel pain. Has anyone got any tips or please share if anything helped you if you ever felt the same xx
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… lost a limb when you’re without them! Give yourself some grace and let yourself feel how you need to. In time, slowly, I’m sure it’ll get easier!!🫶🏼
I think it’s massively normal. My partner took our little boy to her mum and dads a couple of weeks ago for 2hrs and I was so excited to have some time to myself but all I did was worry (did he have enough sleep time, have they fed him enough, did they make his bottles correctly etc etc etc) I kept texting asking if he was ok so I didn’t relax at all 🫣
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I don’t have much ‘advice’ per se but please don’t worry this is so normal!! I feel like any time I’m away from my baby I need to rush back to her. Even whilst I shower and my partner has her, I convince myself I can hear her crying and I must get back to her as quick as possible. In reality she is fine and I just get in my own head! The first time my partner took her out without me I was a nervous wreck!! The plan was for me to have some R&R time but I actually spent the entire time anxious and just wanted them to come straight back🤣 I would say just try to ease into it. For example let them go out for short periods to begin with, 30-60 mins and build it up. My partner also sends me photos of baby absolutely loving life with him so that makes me feel better too! However you try to work on it, please just know your feelings are SO valid!! You spent 9 months growing your baby and a further 8 or so months nurturing and giving them your everything. You are bound to feel like you’ve…