I'd suggest get the condo in NYC. I'm thinking same as you, saving for anothe home or just down size but for the same price. Coming from experience as a home owner it's alot of work especially for 1 person if you have children as well. I'm also a social worker so I completely understand the pros and cons you have to weigh between locations for career/housing. Have you tried looking in your area and comparing pricing and the area in NJ you're looking into? Some areas of NJ are Just as pricey as nyc. You can also messaged me privately if you'd like too!
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