21/22 month sleep regression

My son has never been a good sleeper. He's almost 22 months and this current sleep regression is going to kill me. He still wakes in the middle of the night which I'm used to but it's starting to be way earlier. Used to be midnight now it's 10/10:30pm. Bedtime is 7:30-8:30 depending on nap for the day. Currently he's refusing to fall asleep for nap and bedtime and it ends up being a fight for 30+ minutes. Naps have been getting pushed back to 1/1:30 when he just crashes from pure exhaustion. Do I keep putting up the fight to try to stick to routine? Just let him stay up until he crashes? At this point I don't have the fight left in me and don't know what to do. He eats very well, is well hydrated, very active, and almost potty trained. Any advice would be amazing. - a VERY exhausted mama

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I am in the exact same boat you’re in! Our son i don’t think has ever slept through the night we have a good bedtime routine and stick to it & put him down around 7/8 depending on nap, and he has been up at 10/10:30pm without fail every night, refusing to go back to sleep. He’s also had major separation anxiety… waking up screaming! I have fought with keeping him in his bed and trying to keep him in his room at night. But i’ve been dealing with it for a month and finally gave in and he’s now sleeping in our bed which i never wanted but i needed the sleep. No advice, just letting you know you’re not alone 😅

@Terra I put a full size mattress in our sons room a couple months ago because I was going crazy without sleep. He'd sleep the first portion of the night in bed by himself and then I'd just crawl in with him once he woke. It was working well and we both were getting sleep. Plus I got some alone decompression time after everyone went to bed. But then he started waking earlier and earlier and then the nap battle began. Feels like we had taken 1 step forward and then 17 backwards. I know it's just a phase to get through but I'm exhausted and it breaks my heart to see him exhausted as well. Sending you all the good vibes to get through this!