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Hey I'm just a mil spouse but I do have the stressful job too. I earn more money than my husband, and he was gone my entire pregnancy, will be gone lots of this year and deploying again next year. It's getting to the point that his career is preventing us from reaching life milestones. I feel angry I worked so hard in my life to have someone else's career take precedent, after all the deployments I've already endured. The years of every 3rd weekend him being away. Moving countries. Etc etc etc. It needs to be because we want to live free and believe in fighting for freedom. Once that idea is gone I feel there's not much reason for it. Sorry I wish I was more positive but I feel sick facing it too.
Ugh I hate the "well this is what you signed up for" line. Like, fuck all the way off with that. Solo parenting is hard as fuck! And being military means you're likely stationed somewhere with little to no family support. End rant. On to things that might be helpful. Do you have family that can come in to support you and the kids while hubby is deployed? Even if it's just some of the time and have different family rotate in so you don't feel like you're drowning. My best advice for doing it solo is to lower the bar then lower it some more. Are the kids fed, bathed, and in clean (ish) clothes? Congratulations, you're doing great! Let the laundry pile up until someone is out of things to wear. Let the dishes pile up until you can't find the kitchen sink. Let the toys stay all over the floor (as long as there is still a path to get through) It's hard as fuck, but you've got this. You don't have a choice to to have it. It's ok to cry. It's ok to not be perfect. All you have to do is survive the deployment
Hey, It’s hard but you will be okay🫶🏼. I can only offer support as I am going through something similar, except i’m the one going to the field and leaving my 7mo with her dad. Message me if you just need someone to vent to or anything!