Husband & sex

I’m 30+ weeks and my husband has been putting off sex. I confronted it tonight and he said he just doesn’t feel comfortable having sex with me pregnant. Anyone else had this? Has made me feel shit tbh and more unattractive/huge than I already feel
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Is he still affectionate towards you?

@Elisa somewhat, he’s very kind and helpful, will hold my hand out etc.

My husband is the same, he's incredibly caring and affectionate and to be fair I get it. We had a difficult start to pregnancy with high risks and he was so anxious about making something worse (and not being in the mood - either of us with the stress). Then I'm rhesus Neg so if I bleed even a little a bit I have to go and sit in the MAU for 8 hours to get anti-D 🙃🙃 so that's put us off. My baby is a real mover and shaker and I think that also puts him off - like having a "person" there constantly jiggling about! At first I felt a bit hurt but now I honestly don't think I could do the deed whilst baby is kicking the shit out of me too. Both for discomfort reasons and for just being hugely distracting and weird! I wouldn't take it that he finds you unattractive. It's probably that he's thinking so much about the baby being there / anxious about making something go wrong. It is a bit shit but I'm looking forward to when baby's here and settled and we can get back into it again!

@Emma I’m rhesus neg too! He had this in our first pregnancy but not this early/to this extent. Thank you for this perspective, this really helped x

@Emma I’m rhesus neg too! He had this in our first pregnancy but not this early/to this extent. Thank you for this perspective, this really helped x

Yeah the thought of having to follow every sexy session with sitting in MAU for hours really kills the mood 🙃🙃🙃

Some men just find the idea of sex while the baby’s right there too weird, like I’ve heard the idea that they think their penis will poke the baby in the head and they find that idea too distracting and yucky! Doesn’t mean they dislike your pregnant body x

@Jaime haha I have heard anf this especially when ur 30+ weeks pregnant

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