If you sleep with someone and fall pregnant …

This one is especially for the Solo Moms

You know, you don't have to post EVERY thought... you can save some questions for therapy

Depends. If he slept with you using no protection and finished inside you then I’d be bashing him. Dont do that if you don’t want a baby💀🤣

@Laura 🍉🇵🇸✊🏻 she got me on this one, I have been trying to avoid all her posts by hiding them. This one I saw the "solo mum " on the comment too late 😅......

I'm just here to say sorry that people are being so aggressively mean in your comments. I don't know the answer. But why the hate towards someone asking genuine questions?

OP maybe make one post with exactly what type of support you need or advise you are looking for. It's getting confusing all these posts

@Sandi sadly she isn’t asking genuine questions, she’s been rage-baiting by shaming other parents across multiple posts.

Here's a positive post to get behind https://www.peanut-app.io/share/52enXX8jbRb

What part of the world are you in ? Are you not tired ? Is it bedtime or is it too early for this where you are ?

It depends if he pays child support. If he pays for child support then he's done his duty and he's allowed to not want anything more to do with the child. This goes both ways. There was a reddit post I read from a guy who was pissed that he was a single dad and had no help from the mum. Except he was the one who demanded she not have an abortion, and insisted he would take care of the baby as an alternative to abortion. She didn't like it but agreed. Gave him parental rights and paid child support + extra, but had no interest in actually having a relationship with the child. The guy went to reddit expecting he'd get sympathy. The comments roasted the absolute shit out of him 😂

He was present to have fun right ? Than he can be present for what may comes from it. Actions ~ consequences....

@Marie when I saw that comment, I lol so loud 😂

He doesn’t need to be there in person he just needs to support the child financially via child support if that route is taken bashing him doesn’t really do much for the mother other than add unnecessary drama / stress to her own life

I feel this post is very harshly worded. Some women don't believe in abortion, or believe in it but don't feel its something they could personally do. Just because she chose to keep the child doesn't mean she wanted a baby either. It's not the woman's fault for not aborting, it's shared responsibility for not using proper protection or shared bad luck that it didn't work. Either way the outcome is also shared responsibility and he should be financially supporting if nothing else.

@Sandi thank you for apologising , you’re such a sweetheart. This app is so cruel to those who have a difference of opinion / outlook . As you said I’m clearly asking a genuine question and look at the aggressive women I’m met with 🫤😪

@Shannon but she wanted that as well💀

@Aurélie but only the mother chooses if she keeps the child or not. Bit unfair, in my opinion

sorry if you were being genuine and asking a question 🧍🏾‍♀️🧍🏾‍♀️ but after so many odd posts about solo mumming / parenting... they way this is phrased uh.. I think most of us assumed you're that person and were "aggressive" but yeah.. as you're not that person I don't think anyone was being aggressive intentionally it was a mix up 😹

If a woman sleeps with a man and gets pregnant and decides to keep it, then HE has to decide what level of involvement he's going to have. He has to take some accountability and responsibility for the outcome, regardless of the pregnant person's decision. What that looks like may be different. It may not be "fair" or "equal", but that's the price for making a human. And yeah, the pregnant person and care taker has a right to be disappointed in the actions and decisions of the man.

Also, there's been so many posts by Incognito just shitting on single/solo parents that it was a fair assumption they were all by the same person, and the community kind of had enough.

I let my baby dad go when he said he never wanted my son and i have done it alone since day one of pregnancy. I don’t ‘bash’ him but I still think he’s a prick 😂

If this is also the same person making all the posts i genuinely hand on my heart hope you end up a solo mum one day 😂

@Sandi please go through all her posts and tell me why you think it’s acceptable for her to bash us for being single/solo mums and then not think she’s gonna get backlash for it. If you think her words are acceptable you’re just as bad as her.

But what about the millions of women who are forced to have kids... That's the real question.

I wouldn't give a man a child if he wasn't my husband. I get that it happens, just me personally. I never believed an abortion was the right path for me, so I took all the preventative measures. Condoms, iud, AND cycle tracking. It takes 2 to make a baby, there are faults on both sides. He's not wrong for not wanting a child, he is wrong for not protecting himself. It's an unfortunate situation all around.

I haven't read all the comments.. But as women we get the final say as to whether a baby is bought into this world or not.. if he has stated from the offset that he does not want the baby and you decide to keep it, i think its then unfair to expect anything of him..

@Charni 100%! I am in this exact position. He said from the day I found out he didn’t want her. My decision was to keep her. My personal belief is in God, I do not believe in abortion. She was purposely sent to me and for a reason. I do not complain, I do not bash him, I just do it. She is a blessing. His loss, not hers and definitely not mine. Best decision of my life! Be happy, enjoy and love your baby! That is what life is about.