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What was the last straw?

I'd like to hear from others when they knew their relationship was not worth it anymore? Mine was when I went to my bf (ex now) house and I called asking him to make sure the door was open for me to come in with our baby (it's winter). And I'm greeted with a face full of anger and huffing. So I ask why are you huffing, are you mad, do you want me gone. And I get full blown yelling and a door slammed in my and out little one face. It was watching my sons scared face as his dad yelled at me that I knew I couldn't let him grow up with that (not the first time). And the fact that he wasn't his happy babbling self when we got home (we never lived together). Apparently I caused him to get angry by asking dumb questions and pestering him. And he has no remorse or concern that his 8 month old son was affected at all. According to him... "good, fuck off" and "I have no feelings about it".

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There were a lot of things that built up to the last straw but what comes to mind first is that I kept asking my ex to change and it never happened. He also kept blaming me for so many things that weren't my fault. Once I left, I noticed the red flags.

For my firstborn, it was when I had to reach out to HIM for him to come and see her and then he vanished for a week, turns out he was in jail. Relationship was done and dusted atp

We had been trying to work on our relationship after a big infidelity from 2 years back came to light. As if that wasn’t hard enough… throughout the time we were working things out he was telling me he was trying and that he loved me well I saw his phone one night and he had Snapchat (which I didn’t know he had) and was messaging a girl from his past and his coworkers . I told him I would never believe anything he told me ever again. He’s leaving tonight.

my little boy broke his leg when he was at my parents house, and my partner was golfing with his friends. When he’d found out he’d hurt himself he didn’t come to us, and when we travelled home on the Sunday he wasn’t there to meet us so i had to unpack all of the car and our very upset son. That’s when I realised it was over. I didnt mind so much that he didn’t care about me, but I was furious that he didn’t care enough to leave early for our son. He’d argue otherwise that he couldn’t do anything to help but that wasn’t the point.

Mine was when he threatened to ‘beat the shit’ out of me and take our son to another country and I wouldn’t see him again. There were so many times beforehand that I should have left, he was abusive to me, but until he threatened to take my son I wasn’t able to convince myself to leave.

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