Rant

I haven't experienced 2 under 2 fully yet as I'm currently in my third trimester with my second, but I will say that pregnancy with a toddler has been incredibly difficult. This was not planned either, my husband wanted another and I wasn't ready but we found out I was pregnant literally the next day after agreeing to wait 😅 my son will be 14 months when our second is born

If you have a good support system, it's doable. Otherwise, it can make or break. To have a good time with 2 under 2, you need: 1. A set routine, we sleep trained prior, so now bed times are good as my toddler voluntarily goes to bed and settles himself without prompt. Otherwise, it would have been a nightmare 2. Support at the beginning, I had family and friends come round to play with baby ot toddler. This allowed me to show my toddler that he is not forgotten and he has his time with mom. It took him 3 months to accept the new sister. As previously, he hated the idea to share anything and would lash out. 3. Have meal trains or help arround the house. You will have to choose your rest or clean home. So help is crucial.

I did it as a single parent with a 7 year old neurodivergent child too, so I’m proof anyone can do it 🤣 my youngest is now 9 months and I’m just coming out the trenches and it’s beginning to get easier now baby is happy to be put down more and move about herself etc. it was very hard at first though I won’t lie but that was more the fact I couldn’t put baby down or toddler would be interfering with her and I had no one there to sit and watch them together to get stuff done x

I definitely found being pregnant with a toddler, harder than having a newborn and a toddler. I feel like you have no choice but to deal with it, so you get through it. Whilst we are only almost 4 months in, I would say it’s getting easier since my youngest girl sleeps through. I guess a lot of it depends on your toddler too. My 16 month old sleeps through and also goes to nursery two days a week so I would say it’s very subjective. I do not regret it one bit and whilst it wasn’t planned the thought of my girls being so close and doing life together is just the best feeling x

@Lauren my lil one is nearly 3 months

We're thriving and I still would never suggest doing it intentionally. The ideal age gap for them to be close growing up is 2 years. So at least wait til your baby is 1 to start trying again. You want one out of diapers and off of bottles/breast milk fully. Life will be much more manageable.

Depends how much support you have xx

I didn't wait. I got pregnant 2 months after my 1st, there's 11 months between them. Agree with above, being pregnant with a young child is harder than both of them together! Mine are now 18 months and 7 months, and the eldest loves her little sister, always gives her cuddles, kisses and tries to feed her( supervised of course 🤣) the first few weeks were challenging, but as soon as you sort yourself into a routine, you sort of just wing the rest.

Being pregnant with a toddler was very difficult. First trimester I was so sick and making food was such a struggle. I was also so tired I’d play with her and I’d just be laying on the floor. Second trimester was a bit easier. Then 3rd was hard again I had no energy and toddlers take a lot of energy and patience. Then I had my baby and luckily my husband was able to be there the first month and he did all the cooking and cleaning and fully took care of our toddler. He travels for work so now I’m home for a few days out of the week without him. It’s definitely tiring but manageable. Luckily I have family around who will come visit and play with my toddler and hold my baby so I can get things done around the house. Some days I’m able to do everything and some days I do bare minimum. It really just fluctuates with the kiddos. This week we were all sick 😅. So it was instant pot meals and everything went into the dishwasher. We stayed at home and destroyed the living room with toys haha