I do bottle feeds during day mostly nowadays as he refuses to latch on me, but i breastfeed at night as its easier for all of us. I mostly use the nursing pillow and allow him to fall asleep on it then transfer to cot, or next to me on the bed. I have tried sidelaying but its a bit uncofortable so i dont practice it often. In general i feed when baby wakes up when he is drowsy so he can fall asleep easier, sort of like a dream feed. We are down to 2 feeds per night, he sleeps 8 to 8.
I don’t wake my son up for a feed, I change him once and it wakes him more than the other feed in the night (he’s up 2 times in the night currently)
I feed when she wakes for it, nornallly murmurs and moving head searching rather than full wake. Age would if I left her. We co sleep so I do quite a bit of side feeding now as tired 😂 but if it’s not working will sit up. Try not to wake her fully as found it best for getting her back to sleep
Well done for persevering, expressing is such hard work! At night I don't wake my little one up, I feed side lying and often doze off myself (we mostly bedshare) or if im still awake I'll transfer him gently to his next to me after the feed