Struggling emotionally
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@Emma thank you for your reply. I honestly had so many plans during pregnancy but my brain or heart just doesn’t work the same way. I really wish i could feel the same enthusiasm. But you’re right about forcing yourself to go out. I just realised I haven’t stepped outside in a long time and maybe I am just in denial about accepting the new normal.
I just want to say I'm 8 weeks post partum and struggling a bit like you! My inbox is always open if you want to chat.
I didn’t go out much for the first 8 weeks or so, except when my partner could come with me. Mostly I invited friends to visit me for a cup of tea or chatted by videocalls for company. That felt ok for me because those were the expectations I had set for myself. To rest and recover from birth peacefully. When I did go out for short walks myself, I found it helpful to put baby in a sling/wrap/carrier as he would go to sleep peacefully and it felt easier to manage than the pram. I heard this phase referred to as “netflix and boob” which made me laugh since I watched loads of nonsense TV 😆 It will get easier as baby gets bigger and the gaps between feeds get longer 💖
It took me 3 months to take a grip with minimal sleep as my partner was always working and i was looking after the baby..but i used nip outside with the baby after first month even if its just to the park across the street for some fresh air
It’s all so tough but I promise it does start getting easier. I had many tears trying to get out the house and gave up a few times. I had my second baby when my little boy was 15 months and feel like I went back to square one again. My advice would be to just keep pushing yourself to get out the house because you eventuallyyyy start getting into the swing of it then I always felt better once I’d been out. I found preparing when I could helped a bit eg making sure the changing bag is packed the night before. I also chose to formula feed both babies because I knew this would be easier for my mental health and subsequently would make me a better mum. I know breast is best but I have two healthy chunky thriving babies so it’s always an option if things get too much breastfeeding. You’ve got this!