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Struggling

I'm really considering leave my partner. I'm unhappy in myself and us together. We've been through alot and I've all stuck by him through his own struggles but I just can't cope any more. I feel I don't get the help and understanding from him. I see that he manipulates me using his and my own feelings and actions against me
It's really taking a toll on my own metal health. We have nearly 3 year together and own our own house but I need out. I really don't wanna leave the family home but I know I'll be the one who will have to leave as he say he choice to break up and leave.
I'm scared of what's to come as I've tried to leave before but he always say certain things and worms his way back in.
Don't know the point of this post, just a places to vent and let out my true feelings as I don't really have anyone to chat to about anything.

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Hey I feel you and I’m in the exact same situation. Text me if you want to chat about it. 🙏🏼

I’ve been in a similar situation with my kids’ father—we have three together. He was a narcissist, and I was unhappy for a long time. One day, I had to make a choice, and I chose myself and my happiness. You have to take care of and love yourself first because if you don’t, how can you take care of your baby?

I'm going through the same thing I have to take care of everything kids house food car everything and I often think why am I in a relationship where it's one sided he getting his needs met and I'm out here looking like I need to go to mental home because I'm so overwhelmed and he doesn't even notice I say stand up talk write down the pros the cons and start planning a get away and a backup plan

I recently left my three year long relationship because he couldn’t help me or be the man we needed. We have a 13 month old & i’m 6 months pregnant with our daughter. I’m living with my parents for the support and as bad as i feel for splitting up our fam, this is what’s best for us! I am happier, less stress and managing just fine. If that’s what you want , then do it. The fact you’re even considering it means you have made up your mind!

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