Exhausted, overwhelmed, lonely
I feel so alone… our daughter is 2years old..I’ve always done everything for her night feed, wake ups, put her to bed etc.. he used to feed her some bottles and changes nappies when he wants..he’s a little bit more helpful these days with her but when it suits.. but he is constantly on his phone just scrolling or watching tv or laying in bed while I entertain our lo or do housework. I also work full time in childcare..he doesn’t see the issue he works so he deserves time to chill he gets up early every other week at 5.30am so deserves to sleep in at the weekend..but never considers that I’m up at 6 every week day and weekends..but also up with our daughter During the night if she wakes.. and I’ve been through a lot lately and hardly getting sleep due to anxiety..he’s just kicked off and spoke to me like crap cause our lo woke up and she won’t settle for him (I’ve told him she won’t cause he doesn’t ever do it shes too used to me doing it) I sat and waited to see if she would settle as usually if I go in he moans I’m taking over but then he’s moaned I haven’t gone in to help! He’s just made me feel worthless with his comments tonight and the way he’s behaved..I’m the problem I’ve made our daughter like that he takes no responsibility in the fact she only wants me cause he’s never tried! I would love to sit and let him put her to bed and settle her so I can have some time to myself I get zero time! I literally get a five minute bath twice a week cause that’s all I can squeeze in but he has one daily! I just feel so lonely like he doesn’t want to spend time with me and her sometimes but mostly me the phone is an issue and I’ve brought it up so many times! I’m laying in bed he’s in the front room not talking..i don’t know why I’m writing this post but I also don’t know what to do anymore..I’m so exhausted and do everything for the both of them and then he makes comments that I’m the problem..I don’t take time for myself ever,I don’t get time and i put everyone else first if there is a little time..anyway rant over
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@Liz I’ve tried all this before a conversation asking for stuff.. it changes for a couple of weeks then straight back but thank you 😊 I will try again xx
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Sending you virtual hugs 🥰 I understand why you feel the way you do. Perhaps when everything’s settle try and have a chat with him, then he has a choice to listen to you or not. You are basically doing it by yourself and that is draining, any person would feel the same as it’s taxing. He needs to know that. You can talk about the fact you want a break and agree who gets to lie in, when you want an extended beauty time bath, you could even go out for the day and leave him too it. Wishing you luck 🍀