Am I overprotective? Please help!

I wouldn’t personally I don’t feel comfortable with my little one sleeping out until he’s able to communicate properly, my partner would let him stay out but I talked to him about my feelings and he understands x

I wouldn’t either

NOPE.

No you’re not being overprotective or overreacting at all. I would feel the same if I was in your situation, especially if it is someone who isn’t respecting your wishes for your child because they think they know best. 20 months is still so young to be away from you for more than a couple of hours xxx

My kids have always stayed overnight with grandparents from being tiny, I'm talking weeks old, but that's because my parents are amazing grandparents! They've had my 3rd baby for a whole weekend twice now, when she was around 5/6 months old and we both trust them 1000%. However, if I didn't feel they were capable or able to fulfil my babys needs then I wouldn't allow it

The people that are most involved in my kids life is my immediate family. Anyone that’s not immediate like my aunts, uncles, my cousins, my daughter‘s other grandmother and aunt and uncle are not around that much and I wouldn’t just let them take her like that either. They’re not around enough.

I let me son sleep over a my parents when he was 6months I know he was you he didnt sleep out again until last night he's 2.5 now there was no issues we told them his routine he went down no problem but everyone is different I was glad of the break even if it was for one night

IF i was open to it I'd want a trial run. How about we all go for a sleepover and then grammy would be the one doing the entertaining. Me and my partner would leave for a nice little dinner date. Grammy would do all diaper changes, the lunch, the dinner, playtime, bedtime. We would come back throughout the he day just to check in. See how she's doing and see how little one is doing. But i wouldn't be open to it. My little one is 2 and hasn't slept over anyone's home. She will not sleep over anyone's home until she's an adult 🤣

I think it’s your baby your choice and please don’t question yourself go with what your comfortable with

I wouldn’t personally let my son stay overnight anywhere until he was a little older, neither would my partner tbh. Also I completely agree with you saying that she doesn’t see him enough to understand his behaviour and needs etc I have had a similar experience with this, when I went back to work someone offered to have my son a couple days a week and I said no because they had only seen him a handful of times since he had been born. They recently said the same thing again, but I again said no, because they still don’t see him enough to know him…

We let our son stay over at grandparents house when he was around 1 years old, it was the hardest thing ever, especially considering he has a milk allergy i just couldn't turn anyone not to give him dairy, but unfortunately I had to do it as i was preparing to welcome our 2nd child , and i need to be comfortable with him staying there before i went into labour or the stress of that on top of labour would've sent me through the roof. He now goes there every few weeks to stay, but i do feel comfortable with him going there and staying, they listen to what i tell them, they cater for his needs and he has always so much fun there. In your situation i'd also feel the same, i wouldn't like that 'she knows best' and doesn't listen to you, the fact she doesn't see him very often he could get separation anxiety from you and being in a unfamiliar place for long period especially at night and might not feel comfortable.

I wouldn't let my son stay over either x

@Colleen that’s exactly what I think! He doesn’t speak much yet. She asked me today if he drinks milk at night but it’s not a yes or no question. Usually he drinks just water but sometimes he wants milk. I know the difference but honestly I can’t explain it 😂

@C that’s a good idea! However, I’m afraid she won’t understand that I want to check on him. Whenever I suggest her something, she always says she raised two children and doesn’t need my advices. Yeah, that’s true but times are changing! He completely refuses a bottle and formula milk so I was exclusively breastfeeding and felt good with it. However, she stated that every baby drinks from the bottle and she forced him to drink formula. Of course, he just spat it out every single time like I told her he would but SHE HAS TO try. It’s just one of the many things. Of course, nothing bad happened to him but my child is not her guinea pig. I just can’t trust her 🫣

@Manon that’s the thing! I’m pregnant with our second but I can’t imagine him to spend the night with anyone else except his daddy. I’ve just mentioned the situation with formula milk in comments so I totally understand the allergy thing, which is much worse! I would really use some help when the baby comes, but she never suggested it. What’s more, she boasted she booked a holiday just after my due date so I don’t even want to ask her if she could stay with our son during the labour. We don’t have any other family nearby however some of my friends care for him way more than she does.

@Chloe thanks! I’m a little bit confused as she complained at the beginning (to other people) she sees him so rarely but never really asked us to bring him to her. I mentioned it a few times and she said we can ask her to stay with him if we need it. But that’s the thing - if WE need it. She acted as if it didn’t matter to her whether she saw him or not. And now, after almost two years she offer she offers to take him for the whole weekend and I’m about to say no. I don’t want to act like a hypocrite, because I’m more than happy for them to spend the whole day. It’s just about the night, as for me he is only 20 months and it’s just too early for that.

Thank you all for advices! It means a lot to me! xx

My little girl has always slept round my mums since 8 weeks old, never had a problem and I enjoy the break tbh x

No, trust your gut instinct. You wouldn’t have a nice time either because you’d be worried.

If you're not comfortable don't do it. I have left my little one with my MIL but I trust her and she is amazing with my little one. I don't think I would leave him with anyone else