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I’m so nervous for this to happen my baby will be 16 months when we bring her sister home and our oldest is finally moving with us around the same time she’s so used to it only being her idk how she’s going to react I’m going to just try to involve her as much as I can I know it’s gunna be super hard hopefully it’s just an adjustment period tho
@Caitlin in my head I keep thinking when will it settle. I try do as much as I can, my newborn also has colics which makes it’s super hard.
Totally get that! My youngest had colic and reflux so I get it! These first months are hard but soon you’ll have two children who love each other and will play together! Mine are now 1 and 2 x
@Caitlin sounds so hopeful, I can’t wait for that stage even though I want to soak up the stage that I’m in at the moment. X
That’s what hard! Remember the days are long but the years are short x
@Caitlin thank you hun ❤️ Also quick question what did you use for reflux ? I’m breast feeding but the reflux is bad
My son is now 4mths and she's just turned 2, I don't know if it's helped but we constantly did and still say things like "look he's smiling at you" "he wanted to see you" or "he's saying that's my sister!" etc all things to make it about her and to try say he's also interested in her, we've never had an issue with her behaviour around or about him, if anything she's super caring and gets his soother for him etc. it might help 🤷🏼♀️
Practise gentle hands with a baby doll and bears etc. get them involved around baby as much as possible. I used to do night feeds with both mine in their play space in a bean bag, one on the boob and the other with a bottle. I used to feed my second in the play space while my oldest would play and he’d come show him toys, rub his head. It might not also be too late to give your first a backpack gift - a backpack filled with things they like, new activities, new bear/toys, a book maybe some snacks or anything you want really - general idea is so that your first doesn’t feel left out/overwhelmed/jealous with all the new things happening and attention that babies need/get. And it helps keep them occupied when you need to attend baby. You give it to them as a gift from their baby sibling. I also included a note from baby and a little photo album
I have 12months gap. Its will be only better, believe me. Try to involve your older one as much as you can, with bringing nappies, a blanket, a bottle.
@Lena aww that’s cute, we do that but she’s only 14 months so I don’t think she fully understands yet. Which is frustrating for her and us too
@Sharnee this is a good idea I might try, we did go to the toy shop and buy a toy and said it’s from her little sister but yet again don’t think she has full understanding, can only hope it gets better
I also did like a toy/book rotation to save on clutter and avoid boredom so it was like him having a complete different set of things to play with every day x
I had the same issues. It will settle! Keep making sure they’re involved in activities with the newborn and keep their routine really well x you’ve got this!