Has anyone experience an old friends with benefits want you after giving birth?🥴

Kind of yes, but he's been saying he wants to take me out - I feel like he probably just wants to sleep with me though , I'm not on that anymore myself I personally would prefer either to stay single or have a proper relationship rather than a casual thing myself , unsure if a relationship even worth the risk though bit of a sticky one really

I’m currently 20weeks and I’ve had an old fling want me while I’m still pregnant. We saw each other once and hung out for the Super Bowl and I guess once he realized I wasn’t putting out and actually wanted something consistent and serious, he stopped talking to me. A lot of I miss you’s and even told me he “loved” me and then went ghost. I’d just say be careful with it, especially if you want to be taken seriously. He already made his intentions clear from the sound of it. Don’t try to love him into changing his mind about relationships

@Xyaire that’s true

It’s such a hard one because if he only wants sex and you are looking for something deeper, especially with having a baby it’s really important not to get tangled in something that is most likely going to end in emotional distress. Knowing it’ll just be sex really means you’d need to work on accepting that for the sake of your baby as it isn’t wise to put them through your heartache and your constant worries about where this guy is going to be, don’t forget if you’re a friend with benefit it’s likely he will have more than one. But it does sound like you’re ready to think about dating xx I’m just not sure it wise with him just because it’s easy xx

@Kathryn yes I do feel a little ready to start datin/ talking to people. It’s crazy my bd is constantly rubbing in my face he doesn’t want a relationship or saying I’m keeping my child away because he doesn’t want me which isn’t true at all he just doesn’t show up and wants me to bring her to him. But I’m ready to just forget abt him at the same time yeah I told the old fwb I blocked him cus I’m not on the timing of having sex. So yeah I need to be cautious.

I’d definitely say to your BD if he wants a relationship with his child he has to be the one to make the effort, that’s his job in this situation because you’re caring them your baby 24/7 if he can’t organise the time and travel to you then it simply isn’t going to happen because he should be making the effort to have that relationship

@Kathryn yeah I feel like it’s common sense but he even said now that I don’t make him feel welcomed to come and I’m not loving. I tell him it not my job to take her to you and why would I be loving.

Exactly! Why would you be loving. The idea of the visit is for him to bond with his child 🤷