Is this just a US thing?

I don’t know what it is but there are so many people (moms and not moms alike) who are talking about how they’re so lonely and they don’t have friends but then these same people are anti social, they don’t say hi and when they do they’re tepid and only answer with short, curt responses. And when you are friends with some there’s a lot of these same people that want friends that don’t act like friends at all, they aren’t happy to see you, they don’t show affection by gift giving or hell even being on time or being considerate or communicative. Does anyone have any theories as to why this is and how to find people who actually want to have friends and aren’t just saying that? I’m mostly venting but I’d love to hear ideas. :(

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I do want a friend it’s lonely being an adult even lonelier as a new sahm.

I’d love to make friends with children around my son’s age. It’s extremely difficult

I think in a lot of new mothers situations the post partum depression takes k sr and it’s hard to continually put in effort for friends and take care of a new born. It’s a hard life adjustment tbh and can lead to feeling extremely lonely and isolated.

I think we need new mother to new mother to mutually agree that being friends is hard and for it to be okay to just say “I’m not feelin like it right now” and that be that

People just need to be clear…like “ I want a friend that won’t text me all day everyday and no I don’t want to hang out almost every weekend” or is that just my age group?

@Sarah I don’t go out. I am not a person to sit and text all day when I have a toddler. I’m almost 40 years old. I rather sit on the couch, put on a movie and nap lol

I don't think it's just a US thing. I'm in Australia, and similar, though I can be like that too. Some days, I would love a friend to just be there or maybe chat for a little bit (I'm not a huge talker, though), but I can go weeks without wanting to talk or really interacting with anyone but I think it's the we want a community or just someone to acknowledge us and say hello how was your day and leave it like that. I'm similar, @Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ I'm almost 40, too, and I hate being out and about. i love being home too much.

Ngl I’m either super busy or when I do have time, so overstimulated, stressed, whatever that I just wanna be left alone. The few friendships I’ve made either fall apart or end up a disaster.

A lot of lonely people with no friends also struggle to communicate so they want to be abit more social and are not meaning to be antisocial but they may just be struggling on how to communicate as this could be new to them

@Jodie yes I totally agree with you!!

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