Baby self-soothing

I have been rocking my 8 week old baby to sleep for daytime naps.

Everything I read says to put baby down drowsy but if I do that in the daytime he is wide awake immediately, and often upset.

Am I missing something? Any suggestions on how to do this better? I’m worried he’ll get use to being rocked to sleep, but he seems way too young to be left crying

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Mines also 8 weeks! I do a lot of contact naps during the day tbh…. Cuz of the same thing haha
I should probably be doing a bassinet nap during the day - but I have not been.
My doctor said you can’t spoil a newborn, like it’s not possible - giving them the soothing they need etc isn’t bad. So I think we’re still in a fine window to transitioning to sleep routines and stuff like that. I do plan on asking my doctor at the next appointment next week about when we should be doing all that more strict stuff

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That makes me feel better !
Great idea, we have a doctor appointment the first week in March, so maybe I’ll continue doing what I’m doing until then and ask at our appointment too! Please let me know if you get some information at your appointment too!

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I will! And let me know what you hear as well! I honestly feel like my doctor is gunna be like yeah no structure / baby’s terms til now is totally fine😂 I think we’re doing okay! As long as sleep is happening I think we’re good

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Are you watching for sleepy cues? Also do you follow wake windows?

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I do watch for sleep cues, and wake windows we’re anywhere from 30-90 minutes, but seem fairly consistent as to when those land. He’s going to sleep and staying asleep in his own sleep space. It’s just the putting him down drowsy I’m having trouble with. Is that maybe because he’s overtired?

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This is my issue right now and he’s 8 weeks old too! He’s been constantly only wanting to do contact naps during the day. Luckily he does fall asleep in his bassinet at night and I hope it stays this way. One thing I read is that contact naps during the newborn stage is okay and that it actually helps to create independent sleepers later down the road. I hope that’s true but in the meantime sometimes I just want 1 or 2 contacts without me to be able to get things done around the house and soon I’ll be going to work! If you find away to stop the rocking to sleep/contact naps or if your LO just grows out of it, I’d love to know in the future!

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For nap time, I gave my baby just 1-2 oz of formula very warm and humming song while rocky him. When he drowny, I do very slowly and let feet touch the bed (test how much drowny) if he still awake more. I would hold him few minutes more before i could full put him down. When he ACTUAL drowny, i keep my hand on his back or tummy & shush calm him. When ready, i let him go. Sometimes i used Ocean soundtrack. (he love the way ocean made noise with water) that keep him relaxed and sleep long time.

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My girl goes down to classic country music as the white noise did not work for her. I will let her cry if she fusses a little but only a couple minutes and then I’ll check her and stand next to her crib a few minutes til she is falling asleep. I also have a 2 year old so when he needs my attention for a snack or lunch the baby may have to cry a few minutes if she doesn’t want to be in her swing or laying down in her crib since I’m a single mom

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