Feeling like I’m the only one that cares about the baby
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Men definitely don't feel the same excitement that we do, they don't feel connected in the same way that we do. My fiance adores our baby, and even he didn't touch my belly that much during pregnancy unless I asked him to to because she was doing flips 😅
I felt the same with my first baby. I had a chat to him and ultimately it was because he just didn’t know where to start and he knew anything he picked out I would say I didn’t like anyway (which is true haha). I enjoyed doing the research and comparing things, he enjoyed building and putting things together. While I bought a lot of the things for our baby, he picked up the costs of other things. Have a chat, I know how it feels but I just think it’s different for them xx
Yea I'm on number 8 and it's exactly the same lol They deffo aren't the same excited, I think because it's not there as a constant for them, but I bet he is excited. Talk to him, tell him. He might feel silly touching your belly or might think you don't want it as alot of pregnant women say don't touch the bump etc
This is normal. I talked to my bf about it and he openly said he just feels like it’s hard to get excited about it yet until it feels more “real” i.e in the delivery room 🤣. He’s had a son previously and said he was the same then. I think it’s just harder for men to feel a connection or bond because it’s not affecting them physically. He’ll be over the moon when she’s here! X
I don’t think dads really realise what is happening till after they are born! With my first I paid and bought everything, I don’t think he actually bought or paid for anything, but this pregnancy he has already bought somethings himself, I think he now has the confidence to do so whereas first time round he was like a rabbit in headlights!
mine doesn’t seem too bothered but he said it’s because it won’t sink in until she’s here - i think men are just weird like that!
Firstly, it’s completely normal for you to be upset. Pregnancy can be very lonely at times. I think for your first it doesn’t seem real to some men until the labour hits and baby arrives. Maybe talk to him about how you’re feeling? I found with my first that my husband felt more useful when we were picking prams or building furniture for the baby room. Post baby it’s very different, he’s always buying little random outfits or toys he sees. Also this pregnancy he has been more excited because he knows what’s to come.