Using euphemisms for hit, like “pop” and “whoop,” is an attempt to reduce cognitive dissonance.

Hell to the yes. Assault and abuse are still assault and abuse no matter how you dress it up

And just because something isn’t against the law doesn’t mean it’s okay. It used to be legal to burn your neighbor on a stake. So. If you have to harm a child to get them behave, you need help.

@Claire we might have to gentle parent people who hit their kids because it seems like they are easily deregulated and need help managing their emotions. "Oh no, our hands need to stay on our own body. Nice gentle hands" like I do with my kids.

I can’t imagine ever getting so angry I turn to violence on a child that literally knows no better than to behave like a child. It honestly boggles my mind the people that think this is okay.

Girl, say it LOUDER!!!!

LITERALLY! people are like “oh i don’t hit my kids! but i’ll pop them” lady THAT’S THE SAME THING stop trying to make yourself sound better you suck

🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️ Punishment is reinforcing to the punisher, not the learner.

I believe in spanking and intend to use it in my toolbox of discipline actions if it's needed 🤷🏼‍♀️

Imagine if an adult spanked you for misbehaving. That’s assault, but on a child it’s “discipline”. If you have to rely on hitting your kid what are you going to do when they’re older? Idc how much hate I get I think if you hit your kids you’re a pos. The lengths some people go to defend hitting is very telling.

@Liv when would it be needed?

I would take a wild guess at it being “needed” when the adult can not regulate themselves and allows their anger to hurt their child 😣

When we have worked through every option of redirecting, reasoning, timeout, losing privileges, positive reinforcement, etc and nothing works or they find humor in your efforts. It also depends on age, a 1yo isn't getting spanked. It's never done out of rage and if you are at that point of anger you walk away. Discipline is also different for every situation. Throwing food on the floor is different than intentionally breaking something or intentionally hurting another kid

@Liv and what is the goal of hitting the child? What lesson does it teach and how does it promote long term positive change?

@Liv I agree with you. There's a way to do it that's intentional, non emotional, and not painful. Sometimes you just need to get the kid's attention and nothing is working.

Incog, When nothing else works and you have an extremely bullheaded kid, it gets their attention. Shows them there's real consequences to their actions. Shows them to think about what the outcomes of their actions are going forward.